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Title: Saying it...
Post by: Almeidaboo on March 03, 2006, 08:14:46 PM
Yeah, this one is kinda complicated (not for me though). Many people have a problem with this, and consider this a hardship in their lives...Sometimes it becomes a real monsters and it just goes away when you do it.

Iīve done it many times, and I learned when to do it, and when I should not, just for the sake of not spoiling everything (or making an idiot of myself). But I wanna know about other people:

How hard is it for you to say "I love you" to someone (regardless is it is a girl/boy you like, or just someone)?
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Post by: Dragoon de Sol on March 03, 2006, 08:30:21 PM
I have a hard time saying it.

Especially to someone I actually have the feeling for...
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Post by: drenrin2120 on March 03, 2006, 08:36:31 PM
It depends on the situation. Now a days though, I think alot of people say it without actually knowing how strong of a word it is. It's defintiely over used. Like people that go out for a month and say they're in love, than a week later they break up. I've done it before, but I'm more careful now.
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Post by: Robotam on March 03, 2006, 08:36:35 PM
I'm sure it's not easy for anyone in the start. Of course, when you start saying it a couple of times you get used and just say it without even thinking about it.

For me? I just wait for the right moment, which is when I still wait for the right moment. :P
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Post by: Darkfox on March 03, 2006, 08:46:52 PM
Not as hard as it used to be. It's a macho thing I guess. Though when I say it, it is most likely in the way of "Like a brother" or "Like a sister". And I'll be mean to them at times when they get in trouble just because I worry, like they were an actual sibling. You see, I only have a sister in the family, never had much of an actual brother, or even brother figure at all here.

Otherwise I would hardly say it for another reason unless my brain is high on caffeine or sugar XD;

I cannot honestly say I've ever been in love love though.
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Post by: Meiscool-2 on March 03, 2006, 08:52:31 PM
OMG, it's easy. It's too easy. I tell Ace and Linkforce I love them daily.

To tell the person that you actually feel love and advocation for that you love them, however, is still easy, but most things come easily to me. It just all depends on how a person copes with their feelings.
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Post by: DragonBlaze on March 03, 2006, 09:01:59 PM
I say "I love you" all the time, but I'm never serious about it. Like if someone gives me a slice of pizza at lunch or whatnot. Then again, when that same person gives me a +4 card in UNO, I'm like "I HATE YOU!!!!"

Though I do have a hard time saying "I love you" and actualy meaning it. I've been going out with my gf for 3-4 months now, never once did I say "I love you" or even thought about it. Truth is that I don't love anyone, and I can't lie to myself and say that I do.
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Post by: Darkfox on March 03, 2006, 09:05:01 PM
O.o... so you have a gf just for status? Weird...
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Post by: Robotam on March 03, 2006, 09:07:01 PM
Dudes do that, DF.
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Post by: Darkfox on March 03, 2006, 09:07:48 PM
True, but stupid. Usually it's jocks, and guys like that. Meh. I can't honestly say I like people like that. Relationship with no meaning is like a zebra with no stripes... or somthing, I forgot how that saying went O.o...

Edit: Oh yeah, celebrities do it too. >.< Stupid publicity stunts.
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Post by: Kinslayer on March 03, 2006, 09:15:34 PM
Well, I'm almost 19 and I never was able to do it. It's really hard to find the perfect moment to say such things.
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Post by: Meiscool-2 on March 03, 2006, 09:16:42 PM
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Well, I'm almost 19 and I never was able to do it. It's really hard to find the perfect moment to say such things.


Virgin?
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Post by: Darkfox on March 03, 2006, 09:19:08 PM
*kicks Meiscool in the shin*
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Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on March 03, 2006, 09:21:21 PM
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Originally posted by Kinslayer
Well, I'm almost 19 and I never was able to do it. It's really hard to find the perfect moment to say such things.


Virgin?


Does it matter?

 
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Darkfox    O.o... so you have a gf just for status? Weird...
Robotam      Dudes do that, DF.


Yeah sadly. It is rare to see some girls do the same though....

I would've kicked too but, tis not worth it.
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Post by: DragonBlaze on March 03, 2006, 09:24:10 PM
 
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O.o... so you have a gf just for status? Weird...


No, thats not it. I do care about her, I just don't love her. Originally we were just friends, and we were going to go to a movie together. She was setting the whole thing up, and she invited a bunch of our friends as well. For some 'odd' reason, no one esle could make it, and I was stuck going just with her. During the movie without asking she leaned over on my shoulder, I was like whatever and didn't think much of it.

I took her home, said by, just before she got out of the car, she caught me off guard and kissed me, then left before I had a chance to say anything.

So anyway, a month later, things were still going on like this, so I was basically obligated to ask her out. It's complicated to explain the rest, but long story short, I'm basically just there for her right now, I know its not going to last, honestly I don't care cuz I would rather be friends, but I know it would hurt her a lot so I won't say anything right now. Later on I may devope more feelings for her, but as of now, they're just not there.
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Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on March 03, 2006, 09:41:06 PM
Sometimes the feelings are there, they just dont surface, and if they don't surface.. well they don't. But as it looks you dun really want to have feelings for her, which why they might hide... or do you?  Three different things: Wanting, Needing and Having.
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Post by: Revolution911 on March 03, 2006, 09:45:14 PM
I dont find it hard at all. I dont like say it every 5 seconds but I say it when the situation calls for it to my g/f. I dont keep her for status though. I keep her cause I actually have feelings for her. Nope, not ashamed to say it. **** PRIDE!


Dragonblaze, dont lead her on.
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Post by: Dragoon de Sol on March 03, 2006, 10:48:57 PM
Yea.

DragonBlaze, that is not good.
If she finds out you feel like that, chances are she will not even want to be friends. She will feel as if you cannot be trusted.

And I thought about, and I think for people, it is easier to say I love you if:
A. You really do
B. You have been for a while
C. You can say it without thinking much about it, as if it is like brathing while around that person.
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Post by: Meiscool-2 on March 03, 2006, 10:52:50 PM
Girls have guys for status, guys can do the same with girls. I personally have no objection to it, but most of the girls I like are band-peoples, so ya, can't really have a status with them 0_o
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Post by: DragonBlaze on March 03, 2006, 11:07:37 PM
Yeah, yeah, I plan to talk to her about it sometime, but its not like its easy to just go and say something like that. The fact that I am hesitant means that I do care for her, just 'love' may be a little to extreme right now.

Anyway, prom is coming up very soon. Since this is going to be our last one in high school, I'm not going to say anything before hand. Seriously, breaking up with someone right before their last prom wouldn't be a good thing to do...

So yeah, a little while after the prom, and after I sort out my feelings a bit more, I'll talk to her.
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Post by: Dragoon de Sol on March 03, 2006, 11:19:59 PM
Who knows?

The prom may change your mind.
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Post by: DragonBlaze on March 03, 2006, 11:25:59 PM
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Who knows?

The prom may change your mind.


Thats a very distinct possibility, which is another reason for me to wait before I say anything.
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Post by: WarxePB on March 03, 2006, 11:43:28 PM
I've never said it to anyone outside my family, but if/when I do, it'll actually mean something. I doubt I'll ever have more than one girlfriend, who will (probably) become my wilfe (unless she dies or something)
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Post by: Spike21 on March 04, 2006, 12:03:02 AM
i said it once or twice in my life time but never meant it

its hard to say when you like some one (just as a friend) and everyone hates you
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Post by: Snake Eater on March 04, 2006, 12:30:30 AM
I don't.
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Post by: Almeidaboo on March 04, 2006, 12:47:32 AM
Something blocks you to say it, even when you actually care about the person.

First time I said it to my girlfriend I said it when I couldnīt really think about what I was saying. Somewhat I got outta my head when I was with her, and said stuff without saying...

Time later I realized that anyone, I mean anyone likes to hear it, boy (a friend >.>) or a girl (friend or maybe something more). So, whenever I like someone, even though I donīt love the person in the passion way, I say it, just for the sake of the smile. And they usually say it back!

When you donīt really mean it you think twice before saying it. It happens much in the beggining of relationships, when youīre still figuring out the answer to the "WTF is happening to me" question...But this' not only about "doubt", but also about "caring for what you have and not spoil it".
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Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on March 04, 2006, 01:02:08 AM
I figured that the most trouble i had saying it once, was because i meant it, not because i didnt.  And it's true: I know of alot of people offline/online that have the hardest time saying it when they mean it, than when they don't. I am  not saying it doesnt work the other way around, but only those who seem to to be looking for the one seem to hesitate a bit more. Sounds weird, but I have across from viewing other people and from myself. It may be just my pov tho.
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Post by: Almeidaboo on March 04, 2006, 01:51:04 AM
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Originally posted by Kijuki_Magazaki
I figured that the most trouble i had saying it once, was because i meant it, not because i didnt.  And it's true: I know of alot of people offline/online that have the hardest time saying it when they mean it, than when they don't. I am  not saying it doesnt work the other way around, but only those who seem to to be looking for the one seem to hesitate a bit more. Sounds weird, but I have across from viewing other people and from myself. It may be just my pov tho.


Well, weīre all different right...some may have it hard (geez...) to say for real, and others feel it hard (dude...) in the oposite situation.

That varies as much as whichever people prefer to say: I love you or I hate you. Sadly some like the 2nd one better :(
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Post by: rush_fan on March 04, 2006, 01:56:09 AM
I find it hard just to have the courage to start the relationship- to ask someone out.  I'm the shortest kid in my highschool- it helps me make tons of friends and because of my height i am somewhat popular- i find it easier to laugh at myself with some friends rather than cry over every stupid short joke.  Problem is, i don't think i'm taken serriously :(
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Post by: Spike21 on March 04, 2006, 02:07:09 AM
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Originally posted by Kijuki_Magazaki
I figured that the most trouble i had saying it once, was because i meant it, not because i didnt.  And it's true: I know of alot of people offline/online that have the hardest time saying it when they mean it, than when they don't. I am  not saying it doesnt work the other way around, but only those who seem to to be looking for the one seem to hesitate a bit more. Sounds weird, but I have across from viewing other people and from myself. It may be just my pov tho.


Well, weīre all different right...some may have it hard (geez...) to say for real, and others feel it hard (dude...) in the oposite situation.

That varies as much as whichever people prefer to say: I love you or I hate you. Sadly some like the 2nd one better :(

well it easy to hate those who hate you. But it is annoying hating hating someone who likes you
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Post by: drenrin2120 on March 04, 2006, 04:59:43 AM
I've said it to two other girlfriends. I know for a fact I didn't mean it for one of them. That's a long complicated story I'm not even sure about, and the other was more like a "first love" or "puppy love" kinda situation. Since those times I've changed and have developed a lot of new outlooks on life. I know a little bit more about love now, and I'm gonna make sure that the next time I say "I Love You" that I really mean it. Though I have thought it'd be nice to have someone say it to me first instead of the other way around. Anyone feel the same?
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Post by: rush_fan on March 04, 2006, 05:03:24 AM
^^ HELL YES!

I wish people would ask me out and tell me they love me instead of me sticking my neck out and most likely being rejected... However i dont want it if it is not sincere
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Post by: drenrin2120 on March 04, 2006, 05:10:56 AM
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^^ HELL YES!

I wish people would ask me out and tell me they love me instead of me sticking my neck out and most likely being rejected... However i dont want it if it is not sincere


True, I think that pretty much answers the question, "Why is it harder to say it if you mean it?" Simple answer, you're afraid of rejection. It makes sense to be more afraid to hear the words "no" or "I don't love you" if you mean it than if you didn't mean it because there's more to lose.
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Post by: MrMister on March 04, 2006, 06:03:01 AM
Meh. You have to say it often when you're married.
I learned that from Everybody Loves Raymond. I learn a lot of things from Everybody Loves Raymond.
I don't think it means as much to me when I say it as it does to her. So it's easy to say. I realize you are almost all teenagers, and you know, are stupid. Kids have a crush and think it's love.. they say I love you after going out for a week. Stupid stupid ****.
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Post by: carmen on March 04, 2006, 06:22:07 AM
it's not what you say, it how you express what you're feeling that's important.

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Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on March 04, 2006, 06:25:04 AM
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it's not what you say, it how you express what you're feeling that's important.

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Indeed.
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Post by: rush_fan on March 04, 2006, 06:27:15 AM
I love lamp.  I love carpet.

JK, i'm going to bed- Goodnight everybody!
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Post by: Shady Ultima on March 05, 2006, 06:23:58 PM
I don't have a hard time saying it... if I think I mean it.

My best friend from high school, I told her on prom that I loved her, and we never dated or anything.
We're unofficially together now though, and she thinks I love my ex... it's a big ugly situation
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Post by: RPG LORD on March 05, 2006, 06:52:29 PM
I've only fallen in love once, and it just popped out of me to say it. That was already in October 2004, but in september 2005 I was officially screwed. Maybe a youngling me just shouldn't think about such stuff, especially after the time when I went real close on that girl.. Although I sometimes just hate appearing like a hateful person in real life.
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Post by: ~*Sweet Ichifo*~ on March 06, 2006, 01:14:58 AM
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Originally posted by Dragoon de Sol
And I thought about, and I think for people, it is easier to say I love you if:
A. You really do
B. You have been for a while
C. You can say it without thinking much about it, as if it is like brathing while around that person.


=3

Yup yup~

I've been with him for over a year, and we say it to each other all the time. I really do love him, and I dont think it matters what age you are. I think anyone is capable of loving someone. <3


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Post by: MoonShadow on March 06, 2006, 02:56:00 AM
I've said it once to a ten years on-off date and he never talked to me again...
Also had it said to me but the person moved to Argentina two weeks later and that's all.
"I love you" it's a very rare one to hear 'round here. I can count on one hand how many times I've seen it said through my family (and it's a BIG family) and I myself never have or got one from a relative. We just don't say it... maybe it's unnecessary, or it jsut won't come out. Go figure... :|
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Post by: MrMister on March 06, 2006, 04:32:44 AM
Not talking about family.
That just depends how you were raised.

I think this conversation can be won by listening to 'More Than Words' by Extreme.
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Post by: Almeidaboo on March 06, 2006, 04:01:34 PM
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Originally posted by MoonShadow
I've said it once to a ten years on-off date and he never talked to me again...
Also had it said to me but the person moved to Argentina two weeks later and that's all.
"I love you" it's a very rare one to hear 'round here. I can count on one hand how many times I've seen it said through my family (and it's a BIG family) and I myself never have or got one from a relative. We just don't say it... maybe it's unnecessary, or it jsut won't come out. Go figure... :|


Are you sure youīre from Brazil? What part of it exacly, cause where I live itīs not a big deal...

Mr.Mr...More than Words is like, a "Shut up and lay down" music ainīt it?

Saying I love you
Is not the words I want to hear from you
It's not that I want you
Not to say, but if you only knew
How easy it would be to show me how you feel
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
Cos I'd already know
What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldn't make things new
Just by saying I love you
More than words
Now I've tried to talk to you and make you understand
All you have to do is close your eyes
And just reach out your hands and touch me
Hold me close don't ever let me go
More than words is all I ever needed you to show
Then you wouldn't have to say that you love me
Cos I'd already know
What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldn't make things new
Just by saying I love you
More than words
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Post by: Linkizcool on March 10, 2006, 03:28:04 AM
What song is that? It's nice.
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Post by: MrMister on March 10, 2006, 05:46:00 AM
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Originally posted by Linkizcool
What song is that? It's nice.

Read the post above man. More Than Words by Extreme.
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Post by: AsakuraHao2004 on March 10, 2006, 05:09:27 PM
Meh, if Im ever single again, Im not gonna say it to anyone fo a long time besides my friends. Those words kill a hookup.
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Post by: Almeidaboo on March 10, 2006, 05:13:30 PM
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Originally posted by Linkizcool
What song is that? It's nice.

Read the post above man. More Than Words by Extreme.


And the lyrics! Itīs a pervert song!