Post by: Djanki on May 26, 2006, 11:56:28 PM
I've been turned down twice, and in less than two months. It happened in January and February, in less than four weeks. The first time, heck, she had someone. The second...I came on too hard, and I think she lied about having someone, but it doesn't matter, as I'm still single.
How'd I deal? Got into a deppression, questioned my own value, dove into video games like no tomorrow, didn't lower my grades, saw a psycologist. I've been over it since April.
What happened to you guys, and how'd you go through it?
(PS: This is sorta like an Alcaholics Anonymous thing, so expect a hug at the end.)
Oh, and no love-haters. I'm optimistic, and everyone has an other half. I just believe in people who never find them.
Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 27, 2006, 12:00:16 AM
Post by: Archem on May 27, 2006, 12:07:22 AM
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I took a shower and cut myself. :p
/wrists...
Uh, I've never been in (or even close to) a relationship. I guess that means I shouldn't reply much more in this thread then, huh?
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 27, 2006, 12:22:33 AM
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Post by: Midnight9795 on May 27, 2006, 01:12:33 AM
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I´ve been in love with the same girl for 6 years now, and I´m 22. So, i´ve been in the same relationship for 6 years now...SO I can say I never had any frustrations... :]]
Six years?! <.<;; So when you're gonna pop the question? :p
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 27, 2006, 01:58:57 AM
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Post by: Almeidaboo on May 27, 2006, 11:19:48 AM
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Seriously, if I am to be turned down by a girl (it has yet to come), I will say "Ok.", walk away and get on with my life. Getting depressed about it is pathetic.
That´s what you THINK...wait till you have to go through (I hope you have not to) losing some girl you really love...
Post by: X_marks_the_ed on May 27, 2006, 12:18:48 PM
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Seriously, if I am to be turned down by a girl (it has yet to come), I will say "Ok.", walk away and get on with my life. Getting depressed about it is pathetic.
Easy to say, quite the opposite to do.
Being depressed about it is not pathetic. "Your mom" cracks are pathetic. After all, most of my friends' mothers are dead, so anyone who says "I did your mom" we laugh at.
I myself haven't been dumped, as I am too secluded to ask anyone out, but even i understand this phenomena all too well. About six people in our school have commited suicide and/or started turbo due to dumping.
Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 27, 2006, 02:03:55 PM
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Seriously, if I am to be turned down by a girl (it has yet to come), I will say "Ok.", walk away and get on with my life. Getting depressed about it is pathetic.
Same.
Post by: Desimodontidae on May 27, 2006, 02:59:13 PM
Embrace it.
Post by: Fang_of_blades on May 27, 2006, 03:01:02 PM
(yeah 2000-5000 times at least^ i'd just move onto the next prettiest girl and start talking til they walked away...)
anyways i had been talking to a girl online for over a year and a half and she wanted to meet me, well the little Bitch... (built up depresion and rage sorry) screwed me over big time as she lied about her age, lied about caring anything about me... and from the way she looked you couldn't tell she wasn't her age...... ( Double D's man) in anycase after that i fell into a depresion, but still wasn't down and out as a female friend on the internet helped me through my tough time... until she didn't want to be friends anymore after about 2-3 years of having knowing me.... that dropped me further into the hole which is known as depresion.... after about 5 girls (more) doing just about the same thing... mostly i worked at my pitiful job and played games all day a depreseion so deep i didn't feel like hanging out with friends or doing much of anything, after some time of this i met my wife and she has stayed with me for 5 years now well, we will be married for 3 years come this december ^_^
Post by: ZeroKirbyX on May 27, 2006, 04:45:45 PM
Post by: Moosetroop11 on May 27, 2006, 04:58:35 PM
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Two turn downs sent you into depression? Puss.
*High five*
I would understand if you were incredibly attracted to these girls and had spent alot of thinking time building up the the asking, but you can't have been that stricken if you then moved on to the next girl XD
Post by: ZeroKirbyX on May 27, 2006, 05:07:08 PM
Post by: Djanki on May 27, 2006, 05:09:07 PM
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I would understand if you were incredibly attracted to these girls and had spent alot of thinking time building up the the asking, but you can't have been that stricken if you then moved on to the next girl XD[/B]
Actually, the first was my mother's idea, as since we were talking on Messenger a lot. Big mistake.
The second? I worked at the school store, and she was a usual customer. I got a crush, built up courage over three weeks, ended up coming on to hard, and got crushed by a crush. During a rough time, as my parents divoriced.
I'm really not all that shallow, and an emotion means a lot to me, so, yeah--I'm weak, and she--the 2 girl--left me in the dust. Call me a 'puss', but at least I tried to deal with it.
Oh, and I'm 16. Who'm I gonna 'do it' with at this age?! (don't answer that).
PS: Almeidaboo, I think I might be wrong, but--six years? And you're 22? Maybe a bit young for marriage...but six years is six years! At least move in with her and see what happens. Then again, what do I know?
Post by: X_marks_the_ed on May 27, 2006, 05:21:53 PM
Edit: I noticed Djanki's post is missing a beginning bold. Maybe it's a Bold Bug
Post by: Desimodontidae on May 27, 2006, 05:24:54 PM
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Oh, and I'm 16. Who'm I gonna 'do it' with at this age?! (don't answer that).
Ah, but I can't resist!
Do it with girls near your age group? Older = bad, but that could just personal referance. Like I said, single is a great status to do everyone.
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 27, 2006, 06:06:36 PM
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I´ve been in love with the same girl for 6 years now, and I´m 22. So, i´ve been in the same relationship for 6 years now...SO I can say I never had any frustrations... :]]
Dude... My valuable kudos to you. 6 years of passion and you remain a prince. Very honorable. If I had a thumbs up smiley I would use it.
and like Djanki said 22 is still to young for marriage :P 25 is teh best age. And you have 6 years together, quite easily perhaps to wait to be married til then if you AND her agree to it. Still though Kudos, keep going :P
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I'm optimistic, and everyone has an other half.
Or four fifths ><
Fixed bugs. Meiscool, do that again, I'll warn you.
Post by: charaman on May 27, 2006, 07:23:45 PM
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Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 27, 2006, 07:31:37 PM
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Oh, and I'm 16. Who'm I gonna 'do it' with at this age?! (don't answer that).
I've had chances to have sex, not with anyone real drop-dead pretty, but still. 2 actually, one was at a party and we were alone, and I really didn't wanna, and the 2nd was with a girl that I knew had at least 3 STDs.
Kinda cliche, but I'm waiting for the right person.
Post by: Midnight9795 on May 27, 2006, 08:33:27 PM
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Originally posted by Djanki
PS: Almeidaboo, I think I might be wrong, but--six years? And you're 22? Maybe a bit young for marriage...but six years is six years! At least move in with her and see what happens. Then again, what do I know?
I disagree with the moving in part, statistics show that most marriages fail when you move in before you're married. But six years is a long time, but on a station I use to listen to this chick was dating her man for like fourteen years..XD!
Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 27, 2006, 08:41:04 PM
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quote: Originally posted by Djanki
PS: Almeidaboo, I think I might be wrong, but--six years? And you're 22? Maybe a bit young for marriage...but six years is six years! At least move in with her and see what happens. Then again, what do I know?
I disagree with the moving in part, statistics show that most marriages fail when you move in before you're married. But six years is a long time, but on a station I use to listen to this chick was dating her man for like fourteen years..XD!
Heh. I dunno, because I haven't been in love yet, but if it were me I would dump her and go on to something new. Sounds to me like you don't plan on the realationship going anywhere, and that it's a (to put it bluntly) waste of time.
Post by: Moosetroop11 on May 27, 2006, 09:10:55 PM
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quote: Originally posted by Djanki
PS: Almeidaboo, I think I might be wrong, but--six years? And you're 22? Maybe a bit young for marriage...but six years is six years! At least move in with her and see what happens. Then again, what do I know?
I disagree with the moving in part, statistics show that most marriages fail when you move in before you're married.
You gotta be kidding me. You can't wait until a huge thing like a marriage and then find out whether or not you get on well with them living with you. It's common sense to have a trial. If the relationship fails when they move in together, it means marriage was never right for them. Sometimes Marriage becomes the thing keeping you together, rather than something extra. That should never happen.
Post by: Desimodontidae on May 27, 2006, 09:20:28 PM
Matter of opinon though, I guess. I dont know if there are any statistics to prove or reject my theory... just seems logical to me.
Post by: charaman on May 27, 2006, 09:55:54 PM
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quote: Originally posted by Midnight9795
quote: Originally posted by Djanki
PS: Almeidaboo, I think I might be wrong, but--six years? And you're 22? Maybe a bit young for marriage...but six years is six years! At least move in with her and see what happens. Then again, what do I know?
I disagree with the moving in part, statistics show that most marriages fail when you move in before you're married. But six years is a long time, but on a station I use to listen to this chick was dating her man for like fourteen years..XD!
Heh. I dunno, because I haven't been in love yet, but if it were me I would dump her and go on to something new. Sounds to me like you don't plan on the realationship going anywhere, and that it's a (to put it bluntly) waste of time.
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Heh. I dunno, because I haven't been in love yet
^yeah, pretty much.
Congrats Al.
Post by: ZeroKirbyX on May 27, 2006, 10:01:08 PM
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I myself don't believe in marraige... mostly because the ceremonies are religious and governmental. I'm just really dedicated to my girlfriend, it's easy to avoid temptation for her. Of course some people will say that you're not really commited to the person unless you're married to them, which I argue, if anything I think you'd be better off not officially marrying. You wouldnt feel binded by all these outside forces, like faith.
Matter of opinon though, I guess. I dont know if there are any statistics to prove or reject my theory... just seems logical to me.
I agree. In the original days of the concept of marriage, it showed commitment and loyalty to each other, and was seen this way up to the early 1900's. But today with like 7 divorces every minute, the concept of marriage has become a joke, holding no value as it used to.
Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 27, 2006, 10:07:38 PM
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quote: Originally posted by Meiscool
quote: Originally posted by Midnight9795
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PS: Almeidaboo, I think I might be wrong, but--six years? And you're 22? Maybe a bit young for marriage...but six years is six years! At least move in with her and see what happens. Then again, what do I know?
I disagree with the moving in part, statistics show that most marriages fail when you move in before you're married. But six years is a long time, but on a station I use to listen to this chick was dating her man for like fourteen years..XD!
Heh. I dunno, because I haven't been in love yet, but if it were me I would dump her and go on to something new. Sounds to me like you don't plan on the realationship going anywhere, and that it's a (to put it bluntly) waste of time.
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Heh. I dunno, because I haven't been in love yet
^yeah, pretty much.
Congrats Al.
En, I don't get it, are you agreeing with me or trying to prove a point saying that because I haven't felt love my opinion is in-valid?
Post by: Desimodontidae on May 27, 2006, 10:20:42 PM
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 27, 2006, 10:21:32 PM
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quote: Originally posted by charaman
quote: Originally posted by Meiscool
quote: Originally posted by Midnight9795
quote: Originally posted by Djanki
PS: Almeidaboo, I think I might be wrong, but--six years? And you're 22? Maybe a bit young for marriage...but six years is six years! At least move in with her and see what happens. Then again, what do I know?
I disagree with the moving in part, statistics show that most marriages fail when you move in before you're married. But six years is a long time, but on a station I use to listen to this chick was dating her man for like fourteen years..XD!
Heh. I dunno, because I haven't been in love yet, but if it were me I would dump her and go on to something new. Sounds to me like you don't plan on the realationship going anywhere, and that it's a (to put it bluntly) waste of time.
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Heh. I dunno, because I haven't been in love yet
^yeah, pretty much.
Congrats Al.
En, I don't get it, are you agreeing with me or trying to prove a point saying that because I haven't felt love my opinion is in-valid?
Yeah, pretty much.
Goodluck Al, and tell us when you ever propose :P
Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 27, 2006, 11:11:23 PM
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 28, 2006, 01:51:53 AM
I dunno...this story of mine is really weird. There´s been 6 years, but doesn´t seem that much at all. She´s a weird person: she´ll never fight for anything, she´s always happy. I´m a weird person: i´ll never fight also, and I´m mostly happy all the time too. So in this time we never ever had a discussion or whatsoever. I´m not saying we never had hard times, but they passed as quick as they came. We´re like two retards in love I guess :D
I dunno, I´m still a trainee that earns **** for working. She´s already graduated at Advertising and she works for Brazil's Central Bank...still in the beginning of her career, but she´ll do good for sure.
I don´t have a good situation to propose yet, and I don´t wanna give her a bad life or anything...I still have 2 years till I graduate, so until then I´m not even thinking about it.
EDIT: Ah yes, the rest of the plan: together with the CD I´ll do the following:
I sneak into her apartment (I made a pact with her brother XD) and then spread roses in her bed. With that I´ll make a flat wooden "figure" of me with a message written in the back (that´s easy cause my brother is in Design University and he has full acess to the tools) and some chocolate. That´ll be the check mate. I guess I´ll be waiting beneath her bed to surprise her (the message will have a reaction part [it´ll tell her to do somethin] and that´s when I come out!)
TOo much work...I get myself into the weirdest stuff. I has this idea just when I was drifting between awake and fully asleep.
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Post by: Djanki on May 28, 2006, 03:01:59 AM
...okay, let me make it easier...
*Hadokens Sailor Moon*
There we go!
I agree with Meiscool--don't bother with my Solar advice--I suck at matters of teh h3@rt.
Oh, and as for sex? I've got a fully loaded 9mm Solar Gun to anyone who suggests it. I'm in no rush to become a teen parent or get an STD. I use the head on my shoulders, thank you very much. I prefer emotions.
Dang it, I looked like the poster boy for some lame Public Service Announcement just now, didn't I?
Post by: Drace on May 28, 2006, 06:15:40 AM
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0_o....this 'love' thing is a mess....
...okay, let me make it easier...
*Hadokens Sailor Moon*
There we go!
I agree with Meiscool--don't bother with my Solar advice--I suck at matters of teh h3@rt.
Oh, and as for sex? I've got a fully loaded 9mm Solar Gun to anyone who suggests it. I'm in no rush to become a teen parent or get an STD. I use the head on my shoulders, thank you very much. I prefer emotions.
Dang it, I looked like the poster boy for some lame Public Service Announcement just now, didn't I?
Your head is on your shoulders? Wow! You freak. Mine is totally on the chest.
Post by: Razor on May 28, 2006, 06:41:00 AM
Post by: Robotam on May 28, 2006, 06:53:20 AM
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I think a lot of young kids now a days say they've been in and out of love, but what they call is really nothing. You can't fall in love with someone in less than a week. That's just cracy. Love can wait for me, right now, I've got a lot of other things to deal with. But if it decides to come a knockin', I'll gladly let it in, and when it wants to leave, so be it. Life's too short to be depressed all the time.
Yeah, listen to Sonic... Who are you to tell the younger guys that their love is not real? :p
I like your plan Almie, it's a 'can't fail' kind of plan.
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 28, 2006, 10:54:38 AM
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I think a lot of young kids now a days say they've been in and out of love, but what they call is really nothing. You can't fall in love with someone in less than a week. That's just cracy. Love can wait for me, right now, I've got a lot of other things to deal with. But if it decides to come a knockin', I'll gladly let it in, and when it wants to leave, so be it. Life's too short to be depressed all the time.
Yeah, listen to Sonic... Who are you to tell the younger guys that their love is not real? :p
I like your plan Almie, it's a 'can't fail' kind of plan.
Yeah, I can´t mess it up...I neeed to make the "doll" already, cause I´ll have to paint it too...
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 28, 2006, 12:02:07 PM
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My head is on my neck, you silly people.
0wn3d.
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 28, 2006, 02:39:02 PM
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My head is on my neck, you silly people.
0wn3d.
Shyeeeeaaaassshhhh...
Post by: Revolution911 on May 28, 2006, 08:34:10 PM
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Post by: Darkfox on May 29, 2006, 08:04:38 AM
See thats where people can really hurt themselves, if they obsess over one thing and it keeps hurting them (and usually others around them as well) it becomes unhealthy. If it keeps failing... it is better to suck it up and move on rather than prolong the agony. Ain't like the world is going to end because of somthing so trivial.
There's a saying for that, but for the life of me I can't remember it.
Somthing like "Life's too short" and... stuff O_o
Edit: Another thing my gnoll character says is "Your never truly alone unless you make yourself alone" as it is in human nature to fear being alone, but are we truly alone unless we purposely distance ourselves?
Edit2: Also I'd like to add how close minded, misused, and cliche the use of "love" has become. People typically think of love as MAN+WOMAN blahblahblah. Get real... sheesh.
Does one not love a close friend? It wouldn't be an attraction like a boy to a girl, but is it truly as far different? If one loses a close friend, more often than not that person would become deeply depressed. There is actually a saying too that says "A good friend is closer than family" or somthing like that. And that is actually pretty accurate.
You can love people, not in the sense of attraction but become attached none the less, a bond formed. True friendship is formed this way. Without love, there is no true friendship. Kinda hard for me to explain, but I think you may get it. Basically it isn't really all that different. But love is more broad than just simple attraction.
With that I finish with this
"Feelings, emotions, sentience. It is what seperates man (humanity) from the beasts. They can make men (humans) gentle, or more fierce than any creature that inhabits the earth."
Somthing like that :)
Post by: Drace on May 29, 2006, 12:51:51 PM
Also, on your point of 'don't you love your friends', I sometimes say to friends I love them. When they look at me weird, I say 'As a friend, of course. Jeeze.'
Post by: MrMister on May 29, 2006, 01:56:18 PM
Then another one was murdered.
Yeah so those sucked big time. I dealt with it by doing drugs. Er, moreso.
Post by: Drace on May 29, 2006, 02:03:01 PM
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Originally posted by MrMister
My girlfriend died in a car crash.
Then another one was murdered.
Yeah so those sucked big time. I dealt with it by doing drugs. Er, moreso.
You do know that those are worse than just being rejected, do you?
My condolences.
Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 29, 2006, 02:45:37 PM
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quote: Originally posted by MrMister
My girlfriend died in a car crash.
Then another one was murdered.
Yeah so those sucked big time. I dealt with it by doing drugs. Er, moreso.
You do know that those are worse than just being rejected, do you?.
XDDDD!!!
Post by: drenrin2120 on May 29, 2006, 03:24:34 PM
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quote: Originally posted by drenrin2120
I think a lot of young kids now a days say they've been in and out of love, but what they call is really nothing. You can't fall in love with someone in less than a week. That's just cracy. Love can wait for me, right now, I've got a lot of other things to deal with. But if it decides to come a knockin', I'll gladly let it in, and when it wants to leave, so be it. Life's too short to be depressed all the time.
Yeah, listen to Sonic... Who are you to tell the younger guys that their love is not real? :p
I like your plan Almie, it's a 'can't fail' kind of plan.
By young I mean, YOUNG. Like, let's say 12 years old? Maybe even 13? I've seen it, and it's stupid. That's what I think. Because when it's over and you get a little older you realize, wow, that was pointless.
Post by: Djanki on May 29, 2006, 03:34:29 PM
*Is trampled by a rhino*
*White 'pwned!' flag is raised*
*Flag is trampled by a rhino*
*White 'WTF?* flag is raised*
Post by: SonicChaos7 on May 29, 2006, 11:35:22 PM
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quote: Originally posted by Robotam
quote: Originally posted by drenrin2120
I think a lot of young kids now a days say they've been in and out of love, but what they call is really nothing. You can't fall in love with someone in less than a week. That's just cracy. Love can wait for me, right now, I've got a lot of other things to deal with. But if it decides to come a knockin', I'll gladly let it in, and when it wants to leave, so be it. Life's too short to be depressed all the time.
Yeah, listen to Sonic... Who are you to tell the younger guys that their love is not real? :p
I like your plan Almie, it's a 'can't fail' kind of plan.
By young I mean, YOUNG. Like, let's say 12 years old? Maybe even 13? I've seen it, and it's stupid. That's what I think. Because when it's over and you get a little older you realize, wow, that was pointless.
The best lessons learned are through experience. Let them find out on their own. Not like they'll listen to anyone anyway.
Post by: AIAS on May 30, 2006, 12:28:39 PM
We're all supposed to be completely celibate until we become big strong men who have steady jobs.
And as a reward we will get married to a virgin and have heterosexual intercourse in a missionary position dammit! MISSIONARY!
Point being, the world's a mess, sometimes it's best just to take the punches and move on. Things always seem dramatic when you're 16. Everything s tied into fate, or has a meaning. well I have a suprise, it doesn't. Just live life as best as you can the way you think is best.
You'll be fine.
Post by: Darkfox on May 30, 2006, 07:24:11 PM
There are many goofball things young people do just because of a pitfall in life O_o
I've had several friends do that in the past, lessee... there was Ryan, who went Nazi... -_- ANOTHER Ryan who went... evil O_o (Ryans must be cursed) and there was Stephen who went jock, ugh! Some others... bad luck I guess O_o
Or it could be good, I learned what not to do to myself and others that way.
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 07:35:01 PM
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what are you all talking about? :x
We're all supposed to be completely celibate until we become big strong men who have steady jobs.
And as a reward we will get married to a virgin and have heterosexual intercourse in a missionary position dammit! MISSIONARY!
Point being, the world's a mess, sometimes it's best just to take the punches and move on. Things always seem dramatic when you're 16. Everything s tied into fate, or has a meaning. well I have a suprise, it doesn't. Just live life as best as you can the way you think is best.
You'll be fine.
lmao XD
For some reason I found great humor in that. Perhaps I think thats what my brother said once or his friend. I feel the homesick thing
Post by: Darkfox on May 30, 2006, 07:36:56 PM
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 07:45:31 PM
Who's a lot like the other one <.<
Post by: Darkfox on May 30, 2006, 07:47:40 PM
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*rolls on floor laughing*
I feel sorry for you, I guess your the only brother that isn't like them XD
Big brother: I don't like you, you hate me!
Little brother: Yeah!
XD
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 08:06:32 PM
Ironicly however I looked up more to my other older brother (who is 23) the one who kinda hyper too :P when i was a little kid he was more of a role model for me than my oldest brother, perhaps cause my oldest brother was like me XD
And though my little brother look up to me a lot, he's a lot like my older brother o.O.
Yeah, but i have come to the point that i am the oddball.. in most levels.
So much irony in my brotherhood.
On the topic's matter, I do believe the kind of love being talked about is that one-one love. You know the one that is great when you have it but sucks when you are deprived for it?
Though I never been rejected I have broken up a couple of times, and each time the feeling was stronger, and i try to figure the factors were either the age, the experience/unexperience, or the time. And through the relationships I've had, each factor increased, though I figured I thought it worked backward, it kinda didn't for me, for each I got out of, I felt the absense of love stronger.
So in theory, from my experience, the younger you are the less impact you are gonna feel at being rejected, however the younger you are the stronger the impact will be when you are put down (rejected and put down are different in POV).
Also when you are younger (12-16 perhaps) you have no idea what to call love, however as you grow you figure out because if you looked for it, you are gonna find it.
As how to coupe with it, I know one thing : killing yourself isn't one way. When you are hurt because you are rejected or because you dont your love one to love you back anymore because of whatever reason, it's because you still love him/her, but half that love is absent, meaning your love is not find it's responce. However the feeling of just being able to love at times should be enough to continue living, not because you hope something will happen but because you feel that love still there. To live for the love you feel, even if it hurts, is to really get over it, because overtime, that love that you lived for will become a part of you and not really feel it again. As to how much time it takes, depends on the fellings and willingness.
But I myself don't believe on anything else that'll harm me physically.
I try to let time heal.
Post by: Darkfox on May 30, 2006, 08:33:16 PM
Face it, it's a person you have grown quite accustomed to. I used to be one of those "Ewww" when hearing such things because when I was younger, I didn't get it, but now I understand it much better.
Just to clarify XD
But it's pretty hard to tell what is stronger. For me, I'm having what is most possibly to be the longest running friendship. XD So I dunno otherwise.
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 08:39:31 PM
Post by: Razor on May 30, 2006, 08:40:07 PM
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 08:41:31 PM
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Originally posted by Razor
There is little like a KijuFox Hijack.
Oro? o.o
KijuFox... FUSIONHA!
Post by: Darkfox on May 30, 2006, 08:42:09 PM
But such a bond (gf/bf) is a bit more unstable. Hm... it's hard to tell O_o
But I know one thing, I don't want to be around when a fight of that type erupts! >_< I've been in the middle of one before.
This woman, for example, in public, yelled on her cellphone and started losing it. O_o And this was at college.
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 08:47:31 PM
However if a kind of situation arised where a relationship will endanger or conflict my friendships I would have to terminate it. Although the relationship would be more precious to me than my other friends, in mind and heart I can't just put my friends aside.
I know I would be bonded with someone, and the relationship will be my priority, but when that priority by far disregards my friends and doesnt leave me time for them or in some or another deprives me from it, then it's wrong.
Of course obviously that would apply to me as well in the relationship
Post by: Darkfox on May 30, 2006, 08:51:06 PM
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 08:59:38 PM
In retrospect wondering if the other person is feeling the same is asking for the other person to feel bad, it's conflicting all together because if you love the other person you would want the best of feelings for him/her, but in truth you wonder if you are the only one feeling it. In short it's the selfish aspect of love; once it's been hurt it wonders selfish things unless you know how to take around, which proves difficult at times, which make moods go around.
When you feel emotionally hurt you feel alive but sometimes with a non ongoing reason. I have set in my mind that even if my feelings are hurt is because of those feelings I feel I should keep on living, cause is the one of the main things that make feel... whole? regardless when I know I am not.
Post by: Darkfox on May 30, 2006, 09:01:06 PM
"An ever conflicting complex simplicity" XD that saying comes from somewhere O_o
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 09:06:01 PM
Post by: Darkfox on May 30, 2006, 09:10:25 PM
Though it becomes extreme at older ages, it is closely related to a child who wants, lets say candy, and if he or she does not get it he or she will make a big fuss.
It is also an example of an unhealthy obsession O_o
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 30, 2006, 11:09:41 PM
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 30, 2006, 11:27:28 PM
the topic was diying anyway :P
Post by: ZeroKirbyX on May 31, 2006, 12:12:40 AM
Awesome.
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 31, 2006, 01:39:14 AM
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Originally posted by ZeroKirbyX
Was there just a whole page of Kij/DF jibberish?
Awesome.
Yeah man, who they think they are 0.O???
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 31, 2006, 01:52:18 AM
Post by: Drace on May 31, 2006, 02:25:31 AM
Post by: SonicChaos7 on May 31, 2006, 03:05:17 AM
And when the great SonicChaos7 speaks, everyone listens.
Post by: Razor on May 31, 2006, 05:01:42 AM
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Originally posted by Kijuki_Magazaki
razor was there too :(
Yeah, I was considering deleting that and just letting it be Kijuki and Darkfox action. But if I did, ZKX would be there instead.
And Almeidaboo said what we were all thinking :p
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 31, 2006, 03:25:02 PM
We should make a fighting game using our avatars...Charas War! Mugen is the program for that right? SO we´d make the game and...*mumbles off-topicness for eternity*
Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 31, 2006, 03:27:02 PM
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 31, 2006, 04:34:35 PM
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Originally posted by Meiscool
Is that the first page ever completely filled by admins?
Nop.
Post by: Desimodontidae on May 31, 2006, 06:30:00 PM
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 31, 2006, 06:30:48 PM
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Originally posted by Desimodontidae
why does this go unlocked?
Because it´s harmless.
Post by: X_marks_the_ed on May 31, 2006, 06:31:36 PM
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Originally posted by Almeidaboo
We should make a fighting game using our avatars...Charas War!
...
Too late, the demo comes out in July if i don't get grounded for the summer. Yes, I had this idea for a while. It was a secret project until the demo came out.
There are two versions: one RPG style, the other super smash bros. style. I was going to make both and see what was more popular. (The ssb version would have online multiplayer.)
Back on topic:
I can't believe it. This thread is still going on.
(Side-note: yes, bluhman, this is why I asked for your avatar.)
Post by: Almeidaboo on May 31, 2006, 06:45:18 PM
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Originally posted by X_marks_the_ed
quote: Originally posted by Almeidaboo
We should make a fighting game using our avatars...Charas War!
...
Too late, the demo comes out in July if i don't get grounded for the summer. Yes, I had this idea for a while. It was a secret project until the demo came out.
There are two versions: one RPG style, the other super smash bros. style. I was going to make both and see what was more popular. (The ssb version would have online multiplayer.)
Back on topic:
I can't believe it. This thread is still going on.
(Side-note: yes, bluhman, this is why I asked for your avatar.)
If I´m in it: yay. If not: :frag: :para: :guns:
Post by: Spike21 on May 31, 2006, 07:46:08 PM
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Originally posted by Almeidaboo
quote: Originally posted by X_marks_the_ed
quote: Originally posted by Almeidaboo
We should make a fighting game using our avatars...Charas War!
...
Too late, the demo comes out in July if i don't get grounded for the summer. Yes, I had this idea for a while. It was a secret project until the demo came out.
There are two versions: one RPG style, the other super smash bros. style. I was going to make both and see what was more popular. (The ssb version would have online multiplayer.)
Back on topic:
I can't believe it. This thread is still going on.
(Side-note: yes, bluhman, this is why I asked for your avatar.)
If I´m in it: yay. If not: :frag: :para: :guns:
ditto ......... :frag:
Post by: Kijuki_Magazaki on May 31, 2006, 09:40:11 PM
Post by: Meiscool-2 on May 31, 2006, 11:00:55 PM
Post by: Drace on June 01, 2006, 04:00:21 AM
From: Super Power Arm Man
Dear Mr. Magazaki,
I recently send you a tryout of my new toy called S.P.A.M.. It should have arrived by now and I'd like your personal opinion about it. I also pre-ordered a couple hundred more which should arrive shortly.
Your's Truly,
Jack Off, the Super Power Arm Man.
Post by: X_marks_the_ed on June 01, 2006, 02:14:11 PM
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Originally posted by Almeidaboo
quote: Originally posted by X_marks_the_ed
quote: Originally posted by Almeidaboo
We should make a fighting game using our avatars...Charas War!
...
Too late, the demo comes out in July if i don't get grounded for the summer. Yes, I had this idea for a while. It was a secret project until the demo came out.
There are two versions: one RPG style, the other super smash bros. style. I was going to make both and see what was more popular. (The ssb version would have online multiplayer.)
Back on topic:
I can't believe it. This thread is still going on.
(Side-note: yes, bluhman, this is why I asked for your avatar.)
If I´m in it: yay. If not: :frag: :para: :guns:
You are in the ssb version, but not the RPG maker version.
Back on-topic, a bit:
Post by: Robotam on June 01, 2006, 03:34:37 PM
You gotta post some screenshots and info in the games forum, buddy. I'm curious about it.
Post by: Almeidaboo on June 01, 2006, 05:03:41 PM
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Originally posted by Robotam
You serious X-mark? Didn't know you could make stuff like that.
You gotta post some screenshots and info in the games forum, buddy. I'm curious about it.
Yeah!!! Post some screenies! (in the right board, of course...which I dunno which is, so pm me on it!)
Post by: X_marks_the_ed on June 01, 2006, 06:06:36 PM
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Originally posted by Almeidaboo
in the right board, of course...
That's the problem. The ssb version is being made with game maker, and this is an RPG Maker forum. I thought it would be against the rules or something.
Yes, using some code and freewebs.com/edware as a kind of server until I can afford one of my own, I can make online games. They're a hell of a lot tougher though. I must constantly create references to freewebs.com/edware.
I have a sort of trailer for the RPG maker version. I'll attach it to my sig soon.
Once again, I must suggest that the thread return to it's topic before it's locked. If you have any questions, besides cheat codes, contact me via PM. I will not spam this thread anymore.
Edit: Spike, i did not include you. I didn't have a spritesheet of you.
Post by: Meiscool-2 on June 01, 2006, 06:47:19 PM
EDIT: ****, I'm not the Sasuke dude am I? Oh well, beats being Naruto XD
Post by: X_marks_the_ed on June 01, 2006, 06:58:11 PM
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Originally posted by Meisccol
I know you dislike me, and I you because you're not very funny, though you try so hard, have I been added?
EDIT: ****, I'm not the Sasuke dude am I? Oh well, beats being Naruto XD
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Originally posted by X_marks_the_ed
If you have any questions, besides cheat codes, contact me via PM.
Post by: Meiscool-2 on June 01, 2006, 07:02:16 PM