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Off-Topic => All of all! => Topic started by: Archem on February 06, 2007, 09:46:57 PM
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My granny died today. I guess I knew since last night when I opened my door to get some water before I went to bed, and saw a cop and a paramedic standing outside her door. The thought has long haunted me that I would wake up to find her dead, or have her die as I went to sleep, or even be dead by the time I got home after school. I've always feared that I would find her dead some time, or that others in my family would suffer a terrible fate. Today, my fears were realized.
I always hoped that, when she died, it would be after I graduated. Oh, what I would have given to see her at my graduation. It's only a few months off...
It's killing me.
Last night, I took the ironing board from her room and put it away, and she said to me "Thank you, David." Her last words to me echo throughout my mind even now. I just wished I would have replied to that thanks, something to let her know I appreciated her being there.
She always loved me, and though she would never say it, I think I was her favorite grandchild. I wished I would have told her that I loved her more, but I didn't. I took for granted all the times that she was there, my granny.
My aunt Lisa came to visit and help take care of her since two Saturdays ago, and she's set to leave this Saturday. When she leaves, she'll be taking my granny's ashes with her, to reunite her with my grandpa.
And then there was one, one grandparent left, on my dad's side, but he's not doing too well, either. He's not looking too good, and I'm almost on the edge right now. I hope, for all my family's sake, that he can mold on for at least a few more months.
I'm letting you all know that I'll be taking some time away from here, mebe a week. Congrats to our new mods, hope you guys do a good job.
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Heartless as this sounds, because this is a going away thread, this should've gone in test and welcome.
Either way, sorry for your loss.
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Wow dude, sorry to hear that.
I'm sure she knew you loved her though, so you shouldn't worry too much about that. Try to focus on all the good times you shared with her.
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Watch some prick come up and say "ppl die gte ovr it." IT DOESENT MAKE YOU LOOK COOL. IT MAKES YOU LOOK LIKE AN INSENSITIVE PRICK WHO JUST WANTS TO LOOK COOL ON AN INTERNET FORUM WHEN REALLY IF HIS GRANNY DIED, HE'D CRY FOR THREE DAYS STRAIGHT CAUSE HE'LL NEVER GET TO SAY GOODBYE.
Looking at you, Trevlac. (Dont take my too seriously)
Anyway, sorry to hear it dude. I hope things get better.
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Rev, calm the hell down. Posting in all caps doesn't make you look cool either.
It really sucks when a grandparent dies. They're like way better role-models than parents, always sweet and kind to you and you just automatically respect them because of how awesome they are. I learned at a young age that the best way for me to deal with the death of a grandparent is humor. I used to play DOOM with my dad and he never watched his health meter so I'd have to tell him. My great grandpa was dying in his bed and I go: Dad! Papaw has one health!
So just find whatever way is best for you to deal with it. Leaving is probably not the best way.
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My Grandma died April 2004, which still feels kinda recent. Now I have one grandparent, a grandma on my Dad's side (grandfathers died before I was born and when I was 2). I can understand how you feel. We had a really nice bond, and I was her favourite. Before she passed on, she degraded, she slowly withered away (metaphorically). So, instead of thinking of her as a dying old woman, I remembered the times we would eat ice cream together and things like that (she was a great ice cream fanatic, as am I). April 2004 was the most recent time I cried.
I understand how you feel, as I had similar circumstances. I'm greatly sorry for your loss.
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Come back safe, man. I too was touched by death only recently. It shows us how important and precious life is, and that we should make the most of it. I'm sure your grandma had a full and long life and, from your description, it sounds as though she was surrounded by love.
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:( She lived with you? Then I'm truly sorry for you.
I've only known great-grandparents to die, and luckily (if you can call it lucky) I didn't know them awfully well. My last living great-grandparent though, now 98, I know a lot better...
Come back whenever you feel you want too. I'll see you then, Archem.
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Originally posted by Trevlac
Rev, calm the hell down. Posting in all caps doesn't make you look cool either.
You misunderstand. Caps lock for me = Sarcasm and/or joke. In this case, it is indeed a joke, loosely based on actual thoughts, boy.
Anyway, yeah both my Grandmas are alive, but they both speak spanish so I dont communicate with them much.
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That sucks. It's never fun when that happens.
@Meiscool: Seeing as this is more of a pity thread than a leaving thread, it can stay here.
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My condolences, dude. I hope everything goes fine for you.
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I'm sorry for your loss. I know how you felt about fearing to lose your gramma. I was extremely close to my grandfather before he passed away, since we would see them very often. Even as far back as I can remember, most of my best memories were with my grandparents. When my grandpa passed away in 2002 I knew that I had to step up in the family. I helped my cousins, mother, and gramma through it, and it brought me much closer to them, especially my gramma. I see my gramma often still, and I fear losing her quite a bit.
So, sorry for your loss, take care, and we'll see you
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I know what yeh mean man. My grandma on my moms saide died about 3 years ago and the one on my dads side died a few months ago, and my only grandpa is hurtin like hell from fused vertebrates from a life of hard-*** work. Kinda sucks.
Anyways, look at it like youre granny and the Archem ghost can hunt Pac-man together now. He'll let her pick up the prunes?
Asta la Toaster.
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My condolences. (sp?)
I have lost a fair share of people, a grandma and a grandpa, one for each side of the family. May she rest in peace.
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I feel for you.
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I'm sorry to here that.
Its hard to get over things like this, and sometimes you just need to talk about some things. So if you ever need to just talk, charas will listen.
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My condolences.
At least she died of old age, this means she lived all she could. It's worse when it's by accident.
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Originally posted by Darkfox
My condolences. (sp?)
I have lost a fair share of people, a grandma and a grandpa, one for each side of the family. May she rest in peace.
outliving your grandparents
how horrible
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Oh MrMister, you're horrible.
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My condolences to Archem.
I hope she rests in peace.
v_v
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Even in a death topic MrMister owns. Yeah, and I really don't need to hear everyone else's sob story about how they've lost someone oh so dear. Why can't y'all post something uplifting like Red Giant or condoling like Trevlac?
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I have sympathy. My grandma died december 2006, and I didn't even get to go to the funeral, because i'm just about across this country. I'm not one to feel so sad and/or cry from such a thing. I couldn't imagine how it'd be to be in the same area though.
It wasn't hard for me to get over, but I'm a cold person sometimes.
It sucks.
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Originally posted by Trevlac
Even in a death topic MrMister owns. Yeah, and I really don't need to hear everyone else's sob story about how they've lost someone oh so dear. Why can't y'all post something uplifting like Red Giant or condoling like Trevlac?
Coming from Mr."Dad! Pawpaw has one health!"
Sorry, had to say it.
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Exactly. Condoling. Also hilarious, but condoling nonetheless.
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"ppl die gte ovr it."
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Originally posted by Meiscool
"ppl die gte ovr it."
You just gave me BRAIN CANCER.
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****!
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it's rough dude.
good luck.
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I'm so sorry to hear that. I feel lucky to still have all four of my grandparents, but I know soon they'll be leaving me, especially with recent events. I'm trying my best to mentally prepare for it, but I know it's going to be really hard, just as it was for you. You knew it was close, but it's just impossible to be completely prepared. Your post honestly nearly brought me to tears because it made me remember the deaths I've experienced, and I feel for you. You have my condolences. I hope you feel better soon.
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Thanks for the supporting words, everybody. I'm back now, my aunt left, we had a memorial ceremony yesterday at the church we used to go to.
After missing two days of school, about three tests (which I have to make up now. :(), and hearing that my grandpa's gonna be getting out of the hospital soon, everything seems back to... Normal... Or as close as it'll ever be again. Friends of the family gave us a bunch of groceries, so we're set for food needs for a while, and my real-life friends are there to help out.
But there's still bad news: I'm living in the house that's under my deceased granny's name, so this house now has no owner. There's no will, so everything's kind of hanging in a balance. The current idea is that this house'll get split four ways (one quarter per child), but we're not too sure that the other new home-owners will be willing to hand over their share of the house, so we'll prob'ly be without a home.
Damn.
Also, our dog, Macy (who was owned by my granny) is prob'ly gonna get taken up north when my aunt returns later, so I'll lose my dog, too. Apparently, I don't get a say in whether or not we keep Macy.
There's still a lot of tension in the air, and a lot of bad stuff's still pending, but at least my grandpa's recovering.
For now.
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I believe no will means that the closest members of the family get to get it.
By that I mean sons, grandsons or brothers, in that order.
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She had four kids, so it'll prob'ly get split four ways.
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Well, they can't just dump you out, that'd be silly.
As for Macy, tell that you want to keep it. Seriously, there's a limit beetwen spliting goods and blatant stealing, you took care of the dog, it's just fair that you keep it.
Though, 'tis be a silly world we live in.
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Yeah, if you've spent the most time with the dog, and you're on good terms with your auntie, she shouldn't have a problem with it.
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That's not how it's working here. She loves Macy, and my mom doesn't think we can handle a dog with our tight schedules. Plus money's gonna be REAL tight now (various reasons), so it might be hard to support the family, two cats, AND a dog. My mom really doesn't want to let May go, but the circumstances are a bit trying right now. If I'm lucky, I might be able to convince them to let me keep her, but it's a little too much to work with the little time and money we can scratch up.
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Maybe they can split the dog 4 ways.
Chop chop.