Charas-Project
Off-Topic => All of all! => Topic started by: X_marks_the_ed on November 16, 2007, 06:33:09 PM
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Yes, I kicked it again, expect it a few more times, too. I just really need help with this.
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(Too bad, Gemmy. You may be gai 4 me, but I sure ain't gai for u kthxbai)
I'm going to be blunt; I think I like a girl in my school. :blush:
I found we have many things in common. Besides, the fact, I find her really attractive, unlike everyone else apparently. She has he traits I like in a girl: Brunette, chestnut eyes, and a little on the short side. She is dark, but not emo or gothic, she enjoys anime (with plots, not action), she likes much of the music I like (yes, even Dragostea Din Tei), and she has a great sense of humor. She seems just like my type.
We have talked a bit, but no real conversation between us has occured. By now you should have established what I'm going to ask, but for those who haven't gotten the hint: WHAT THE HELL DO I SAY TO THIS GIRL? >.<
The problem isn't so much as actually talking to her, I can do that. It's just what should I say to her to get "us" on "that path?" I've been adoring this girl for three months, we should at least be friends by now. *HeaddeskHARD*
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I don't know what you should say or do. But, you seem to be very into her right now, I would tell you whatever you do, do not ruin the friendship you have. Sometimes approaching it's not the best thing. Ask yerself first if she seems interested in you that way first, otherwise you might just scare her off.
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If you two are really so similar, worry not, yerself. Cause conversation will flow.
Just don't touch her too much, girls find that annoying. And build up you upper body, you seem to be the stick-figure type of guy XD
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Find a nice source of money like say $80+ and then ask her out to a place like the mall. It's a great way to find out her personality.
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I am crushed....WAIT.....Im over it.
ask her if she wants to go to a movie dude. Movies are non threatening. Hang out with her. Thats a pretty key step.
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dont listen to that.
it can get mighty akward mighty fast.
Do not treat women like they are geese that you are trying to hunt for thanksgiving dinner
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I don't want to sound negative now but asking her out to the movies might appear desperate in some cases. We had to read a novel in school. God did that guy mess the date up...
Yeah, don't touch her too much, you might seem like you're a pervert or just want to get under her clothes.
Just stay cool, try to focus a bit but don't try to hard; something tells me that she'll notice.
And I donno if you have some shared classes. But if you do: Place yourself close to her so you could help her out or ask her for help. Or even just curse the tasks together because none of you knows it. And if she helps you; don't forget to thank her.
And really, just spend time with her on a daily ruitine, asking her out may be straying a bit away from the safe road in my oppinion.
Try to get to the next level when she is used and appreciates having you around.
Oh, of course. Learn as much about her as possible by listening to her or just taking notice to things she do. It will make you understand her better in any case.
But good luck to ye'. Just be yourself and don't do anything unexpected.
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A girl you find attractive that likes decent anime and the same music you like. You probably don't realise how lucky you are >.>
Anyway, don't miss the opportunity whatever you do. In my experience girls generally pay attention to you in the first few weeks of knowing them and if you make no move they lose interest. Well, they lose interest if you have a 'fade into the background' type of socialising method anyway, which I'm guessing you might.
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Spend time with her, it'll happen. Relax and be yourself. Do all the stuff everyone always tells you. Yes, it's said a lot. That's because it's what you should do. ;P
I also agree with Prpl. Give her hugs, they're great, but don't be too touchy-feely, or you look like one of those guys who's only after sex and who deserve a swift but painful castration/death.
I too am having girl troubles. You're not alone.
The girl in question for me lives 100 miles away and we've not actually met. We're pretty close. We've been trying to organise a meet-up but it's not happening.
Sorry to hijack your thread buddy.
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Shoot dude, I don't wanna sound brash or boorish; but as long as you're in high school this is probably not going to be a chick that you'll know in 5-10 years if that.
So yeah, spend time around her or whatever until you're comfortable with each other and then ask her out soon as that 'comfortable' state comes around. Don't be creepy about it, everyone's saying that I guess but it's a big thing. Don't build so much on your introduction per say. Introductions are boring after too long, albeit important.
Worse thing that can happen is you get rejected and accelerate the process of 'unknowing' each other, if she's real cool (and you are too), you might just get rejected and still get to be friends with one another.
In the end, just do whatever you feel is right. I know it's uber cliche, but there's really no way to go wrong if you go about doing things 'right'.
That's my two cents.
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I do have french class with her, but she's usually bored out her mind by then and refuses contact with anyone. <.< Another we unfortunately share. I like to sitting close to her idea, but our french teacher is retarded and chooses seats for us.
The best chances to talk to her are during lunch, when she sits at the same table. (Found out she likes the Devil May Cry manga there, who knew?)
I'm not much of a stick figure, I'm average. I'll do some pushups, but I don't bench 300. >.<
they lose interest if you have a 'fade into the background' type of socialising method anyway, which I'm guessing you might.
I think that's a given.
She has told me I am more social than her friends are, I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. I consider myself pretty much a 'king of shadows' as we call them here.
I never realised it was this hard, trying to start a conversation, I mean. Everything I think of says sounds wrong, even "How's your day been?" after she asks me.
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Well, tell her that french sucks if you ever get the chance to sit clsoe to her during french and notie her boredom. It'll at least give you a few laughts.
If you've played the Devil may cry games, ask her if she ever played them or seen anyone play. No idea how much she likes the manga but she might be intressed in the game as well.
And if you have some skills, that's awesome.
If she says that she played them: Then try to starta a conversation about it, hardest bosses, greatest moment, wich game was the best ect. It will also strengthen your connection.
And it's actually really great that she thinks that you are more social. This will make her talk to you since she knows that you like to speak about things and that's a great step forward.
You can be the shadow king when you're not around her.
And as I said earlier, don't try to hard. It's a 50/50 that you screw up if you've planned everything you'll say. Just laugh with her(or at least smile if that's not your thing), and try to speak with her normally.
Try to get the two of you on the same level of understanding before moving on to actually making you a couple. It helps; believe me.
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Pretty girl who likes anime, humor , and music you like = wth are you waiting 4 to make a move
Here's a tip: Buy her anime, problem solve.
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<.<
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Advice from a female (gasp): If you're nervous about just asking her to hang alone, first ask her over for something with your friends and some of hers, like an SSB party or something totally feckless like that. Then maybe see if she wants to do something casual sometime with just you, like coffee or a movie (but only if the movie is something you'd both really enjoy, not something stupid and random). Then it's not out of the blue or anything.
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pretty much...If you have similar intrests with this broad, just ask her out, like you would say, a friend. Like so
BEGIN SCENARIO
"Hey, uh... are you busy on saturday?"
"Saturday? Ive got some stuff to do in the morning, but i dont really have anything planned for the evening"
"Because i have tickets to the monster truck rally and cowpie tossing expo"
"I love monstertrucks and cowpies. Sure Im down. Will it just be us, or will others be coming too?"
(If she says this its because she is also prolly nervous)
"Yeah, I was gonna ask some friends to come too...I just still have to arrange it with them..I think Crazy Larry is coming for sure....And perhaps Mike the molester"
"Sweet lets buy porno and cigars"
END SCENARIO
Substitute the monstertruck/cowpie with something more enticing
Also, Find better friends. Crazy larry and Mike the Molester are jerks.
Also, If she really does want porno and cigars....Shes a keeper
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I'm gonna tell Mike what you said about him.
He's gonna molest you so bad.
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You damn well know I will.
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lololol!!111!!!oneone!!!!!1!
Thats the sound I make when i am being molested
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Oh yeah, thanks to Phayre I remembered one thing.
Although this might only work if you/she doesn't live too far from school and you got a big-arsed break before the lesson(and prefarably just after lunch or during lunch).
If it's really dissgusting food(she agrees) then say that you are really hungry, then complain about there not being anything you'd like to eat at home(like pizza that you've eaten the previous three days).
Then tell her what you could cook, but you just don't see a point to cook it to none but youself.
Like it's being a waste of time; so you rather put that pizza into the oven even though you're tired of it. Create a little dilemma.
Then if she gets the hint she'll probably tell you that she could come with you in that case.
Or you could ask her if she has any ideas for food, and then ask her if she could do it since you suck at cooking if that's the case.
But don't do anything unexpected, just eat lunch and talk with each other. That will work for sure.
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Pfft. Like that'd work.
"Oh woe is me. I have food at home which I could cook but what's the point? I have no-one to cook for. Oh whatever will I do. hint hint."
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It does if she really is intressed you know?
It's not like she wouldn't want to cook for you/ get lunch from you if she really did like you right?
All I got back here is deep frozen food, only 5 varaities x 3-4. And pan pizza... It's just dull now, It's not anything special anymore... I'd prefer cooked food but I'm far too lazy to just cook for myself, not worth the time it takes when I can just put that ice block into the microwave for 7 minutes.
But that might just be me.
But Ed is the one to judge, I donno how close they are, I'm just throwing suggestions.
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If I read right, she likes anime and video games right? Well then, why not ask her to do one of the two together sometime? Or even the two. Be careful though, I don't know if I would invite her to my place, she might get weird and think you are some kind of rapist who will lock her in a room and chain her up (even if you don't seem like a perv one at all). Just ask her if she would like to do one of the two after school, or sometime, don't say yer house or her house, if she says yes then let her ask you "where" if I were you I would let her decide that. If she says yer house, then it's a given she trusts you and does not think ill of you, if not, then it's still good that you two are going to get together, anyway. If you play games together where you two compete vs one another, if you are too good and she just does not stand a chance, be good and let her win a few times (don't make yerself look like a worthless gamer either) and say something like "Darn, I don't know why I'm losing, I'm usually pretty good at this" in a joke manner. Yeah, it's kind of cheesy but it can make her think.
This can certainly make you much closer to each other, and if you do it often would be great progress. Remember to be polite, chivalry it's pretty much extinct, but that makes it all the most special, much more if you really mean it. Don't over do it, treat her WELL , but do not over do it, remember that a lot of females like a challenge in a guy and not a lap dog.
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I apologize about kicking the thread, but things aren't going so well, it's not that she hates me, it's just she seems to be avoiding me because of my friend. (Yes, I have friends).
He is, frankly, a girl repellant. He tells stories about throwing his cat around, things he's found on the internet, and complaining about how America ruins animes everytime I bring the topic up.
I'd leave, but no other table has an open spot, and I only have one other friend besides him, and I don't get to see him often because of our school schedules. Besides that, she sits at our table.
But now for some positive news:
I sent her a "candy-cane gram" run by our school to deliver a candy cane with a note attached to a given recipient. The note was pretty nice if I say so myself, since she has a singing voice that only I seem to enjoy. :|
A sweet for such a sweet voice.
But I was afraid to sign my name when I had it ordered. So....
...she knows she has a secret admirer by the name of "A man behind a mask."
She adores it, and I would gladly tell her it was me, if I wasn't afraid of her (and my friend) bursting into hysterics! >.<
I could wait until a day my friend is sick, but with my luck, she'd be out too. :dry:
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dude.. they're FRIENDS! They do shyte like that on for fun. The other day while I was at the movies with them, one of them told me to shut the hell up and go kiss my ex because we all know you want too. And it was so uncomfortable because he was sitting right next to me but we both pretended it didn't happen. You just gotta either sit him down and tell him to chill *although that might really let him know somethings going on if you haven't told him yet*or ignore him. That's about all you can do. And mabbe consider practicing in front of the mirror on how you want to ask her out. It might be easier to know what you wish to say beforehand.
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Liza Minelle says to pounce on her.
Or you could ask her out to something you both find interesting.
Like a move thats coming out that you both like.
And If she ask why you asked her, just says Its cause you have no friends.
(And Leave your A$shat friend at home)
If that doesnt work, Buy me a plane ticket, and I'll make it happen.
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Well, defend anime if he goes all "duh! anime sucks" 'cuz you can still have your own oppinion right? It's not like both of you will lose against him in an argument I hope. Just tell him to shut up in case he goes too far.
You an' she shouldn't have to be around a person who doesn't respect your thoughts and life to be honest.
So try not to see him during breaks, leave quickly and speak with her somewhere else. Take a walk. Just so she won't have to be near him.
And if it helps, tell her that he is a friggin' moron in case you notice her annoyance(maybe not in front of him though).
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Wow. You need to tell her. And be honest. Because right now, you're in the friend zone. i.e. fucked.
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Do you have any school dance type things coming up? Those are a great way to really show you care about her more than just as a friend. Also, the movie thing is a good idea, thats how I started with my current girlfriend of almost 7 months.
Also, most girls like guys who are creative. I, for example, was scared shittless of asking my girlfriend out, so I made a mix cd for her, with just like 7 songs telling her how I really liked her (they were like good songs too) She had asked me to burn her a Flogging Molly cd for her, so I hid the mix cd under the Flogging Molly one, put a note in there, and basically, next time we hung out, she asked me out because she knew I liked her. Maybe it just works for me, I don't know...
If you don't go for it soon, you WILL be stuck in the friend zone, which will make things awkward.
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Originally posted by Tomi
Do you have any school dance type things coming up? Those are a great way to really show you care about her more than just as a friend. Also, the movie thing is a good idea, thats how I started with my current girlfriend of almost 7 months.
Also, most girls like guys who are creative. I, for example, was scared shittless of asking my girlfriend out, so I made a mix cd for her, with just like 7 songs telling her how I really liked her (they were like good songs too) She had asked me to burn her a Flogging Molly cd for her, so I hid the mix cd under the Flogging Molly one, put a note in there, and basically, next time we hung out, she asked me out because she knew I liked her. Maybe it just works for me, I don't know...
If you don't go for it soon, you WILL be stuck in the friend zone, which will make things awkward.
Don't you tell me awkward. She was ecstatic to learn she had a secret admirer, but I think she already has a boyfriend. o.O
Who else can "pet" (run fingers down her hair) a girl besides their boyfriend.
Am I (Man behind a Mask) a spare?
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If that's the case then you should try to ask her. Not so she can suspect anything but send here something else from the masked admirer and if she brings up the topic then say something like "But didn't you already have a boyfriend or something?"
If the answer is no? Great succes!
If the answer is yes? Damn... Try to move on or wait for them to break up(alternative to this is that you keep spoiling her with secret gifts so she will try to find out who it is because that masked guy seems like a really swell person or that her boyfriend finds out about these secrets gifts and leave her/do something stupid so they break up).
Best I can do for now...
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From the New Year's thread
Off-topic update: I think she is on to me, she saw me writing my book before break and I think she tried to compare the handwriting on the note to my twenty or so pages written of Black My Sun. I tried to make it look casual, so I took the pages and put them back in their folder as the warning bell rung. All she said was she thinks it's odd for a guy my age to be writing something so poetic, (It takes place in Nazi Germany, but it's main story revolves around a hopeless man and his efforts to free a little girl from a life oh-too-similar to his own, in turn encountering demons from his own past.) when everyone else is about what XBOX 360 games they're playing.
Side-note: I am a lot more normal outside of Charas, believe it or not.
I didn't want to post this info when break begun because the advice wouldn't be any use until about now.
(That last dilemma, that was just her brother. :happy:
But as the break ends tomorrow, I fear once more that if she found out I sent her the "Candy-cane gram", she would be creeped that I took such an action so soon, after all, we don't really know each other that well, in fact I wonder if she knows anything about me at all, or I'm just "that guy that sits next to me in French class who writes a book in his free time". That and a few other useless tidbits of information.
>.<
Then, comes the side where she does not believe me when I do tell her I wrote the note. I try not to think about that too much, though as it'd be hard to deny comparing handwriting if it does come time.
I guess what I'm asking is, was sending her that note a good idea in the first place, she's confident she'll get a rose in February from the Man Behind a Mask [me (OMG my avy matches, kinda o.O)], and I would gladly, but I don't know if I would just be rushing it if I did.
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I think you need to chill the **** out and ask her out.
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Ya man. If she sits with you at lunch, with that weird friend of yours, then that would mean she sits there because of you. Just take action soon, dude. Don't worry if she doesn't know much about you, it could mean shes curious.
You can do it.
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Originally posted by ZeroKirbyX
I think you need to chill the **** out and ask her out.
yup. youve made this whole thing way too complicated. quit being a pussy, and just balls up.
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Originally posted by ZeroKirbyX
I think you need to chill the **** out and ask her out.
The only drama I've seen so far is the drama you've made for yourself, Ed. Heed this fool's advice.
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i have the same problem well only she looks at me when i am in gym WHAT DOES IT MEAN??????!!!!!!!!!!
Anyways,yea man up and ask her out...DO IT DO IT DO IT!
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Originally posted by Osmose
Originally posted by ZeroKirbyX
I think you need to chill the **** out and ask her out.
The only drama I've seen so far is the drama you've made for yourself, Ed. Heed this fool's advice.[/B]
Fool? Really Moose? Really?
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Makes me wonder why anyone would ever go to a rpgmaker orientated site asking for love tips? Are you going to ask us how to put on a condom next?
Isn't there a phoneline for this? Or perhaps you guys should make one? :p
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Good ol' Charas, with members posting the same thing another member posted. I was going to just let the thread die (finally) after reading Zeek's post...
But, if you want to keep posting in here, it's fine with me.
She doesn't sit with us at lunch anymore, she stopped that weeks ago. :/
I'l ask her to the winter ball and see how that turns out, seeing as she wants to go.
EDIT: Linkizcool, thread over.
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SUSPENSE