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Off-Topic => All of all! => Topic started by: Nandez on August 21, 2010, 09:10:10 AM
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Ok I have to ask no this is not a "Charas Is My Journal" post but I was wondering have you guys ever broke up with anyone like really broke up not like hey its over I mean have you ever broke up with anyone and gone through this entire hour long scene?
Like some of my relationships have gone on way longer than they should just because I couldn't do it from their crying and begging just couldn't follow through with it. Like dude you have to be cold hearted to get through that. How the hell do you get through that crap cause I'm sure out of everyone here one of you have at least once. I mean really.
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I had cops on the scene once. But it wasn't cuz of the break up, rather what ensued afterwards.
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Are you going through it now, Nandez?
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Let's put it like this.
We are men. We are trained / raised not to let emotions get the hold of us.
If you don't want to break up with someone because you don't want to hurt them - you probably still have some feelings for them.
And if it is really over, why wouldn't you break up with them? Why pretend like everything is fine when you can just say it before a baby comes into the picture?
It's necessary evil unfortunately, but it's better than living in a lie right?
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At one point I told a girl straight up and that she was driving me crazy and I wasn't having a good time with her and didn't want to talk to ever again. I had no idea what was going to happen there - I thought for sure it was gunna get ugly, but she just kind of nodded, turned around, got in her car, and drove out of my life forever.
It was probably the most stone-cold thing I'd ever done, and it disturbed me for a while that I had even done it. But it was true, and I was glad that it was over, so I think maybe it was for the best.
Gotta man up, dude. Life ain't easy. Don't let yourself be in a situation that's making you miserable just because of someone else whom you don't really like all that much. Save being miserable for the ones that are worth fighting for. ;)
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Yeah, tell the girl to shut the hell up and leave you the hell alone or you're gonna take out you 12 gauge and blow her boobs to smithereens.
Ahh, if only I owned a 12 gauge. My life would be simpler.
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Yeah. No matter how sad the girl is when you break up, lying to her is the worst thing you could possibly do.
You know what's crazy during a whole long scene of one break up I told her I couldn't take her back and pretending everything was fine would be a lie and she said as long as we were together she didn't care if it was a lie. Crazy right? I mean damn that would eat away at me to know it was all a lie.
@HackersTotalMassLaser Ah the cops I remember them well after one certain relationship.
Edit: I need to proof read what I type.
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She just loved you for the sex, you were probably the best she ever had too. So think some happy thoughts mate.
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Shallooow.
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She just loved you for the sex, you were probably the best she ever had too. So think some happy thoughts mate.
I disagree. I know many girls who use that tactic. "I don't care if it's a lie, I just want to be together"
There are 2 reasons.
1. They're too much in love, and just want to be with the person, no matter what, even if the other is unhappy.
2. They intend to try to make you fall in love with them, thus making the relationship no longer a lie. It's a devious little mind trick, but it backfires.
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seriously, I know it seems like the end all right now... but this is because you are young. Ive been through some harsh ones (coming out of the closet to my then-fiance for one)....and honestly, watching/hearing other people snivel about their relationships is one of the most assinine things a person can be subjected to.
Your hormones have the best of you. There is no such thing as 'love' only chemicals, complacency, and co-dependance. Perhaps Im bitter and jaded....and yeah, I dont care if you said "this is not a personal journal post" but dude....c'mon. Its a "hey tell me what you think of a hypothetical situation that OBVIOUSLY has something to do with my personal life until you ask me to tell you all about it"
Break ups are tough. But you know whats tougher? When your partner dies. Or gets something like Cancer...or say YOU get something like cancer...or say, you lose your house, you knock up some girl you dont even really like, you actually see a third world country and your problems look silly and small, or you just generally come to the realization that life is not fair and you need to pull your socks up and quit being a little girly bitch.And now somebody is bound to call me insensitive...but whatevs. Its an rpg maker forum. There are communities out there devoted to giving you e-hugs and telling you that you are a special snowflake and that 'love is tough" and spout some shitty mellowdramatic poetry. I could care less. I come here to make games You just got called a girly bitch by a confirmed homosexual. FYI
TL:DR Man up, boy. Life sucks. Get a helmet
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Cliche.
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Which differs from the rest of this thread how?
Clichee but its true man....nobody gives a **** about your relationships when you grow up...because you have real problems to deal with
/rant
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I am not sure if to wail or flail.
Well i don't really care about other people relationships besides my family and friend circle. But I am sure that's a human thing.
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WOAH WOAH WOOOOAAAH Lol @ gemini ok you guys seems to think I'm asking for advice here or I'm going through this when I'm not, especially you gemini.
I actually asked because I was just curious how you guys dealt with these type of (everydayish) situations. I'm not going through that situation or dealing with that situation right now.
I wasn't asking advice or whining about my nonexistent problems I was just curious :P don't take thing so seriously gemini. This is the off topic section afterall.
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Fair enough. But a favorite quote of mine holds true
"Dont piss on my head and tell me its raining"
Anyhow, yeah. off topic forum. Im still on topic.
I deal with it by getting drunk and moving on.
I answered your question/thinly veiled plea for advice
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Fair enough. But a favorite quote of mine holds true
"Dont piss on my head and tell me its raining"
Anyhow, yeah. off topic forum. Im still on topic.
I deal with it by getting drunk and moving on.
I answered your question/thinly veiled plea for advice
Lol man you are acting so high strung about nothing. This is no diffrent than Lucas's "The Future!" wondering what people will do for college or dozens of others topics created here.
Nothing more than curious off-topic thread which makes your overreacting to it a bit odd, but I guess you have your reasons or whatever.
Oh I don't really need advice for my "thinly veiled plea" of nothing, but thanks I guess for thinking I needed "advice" and overreacting to it or whatever it was you were doing.
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I told you how I deal with the situation youve asked about, and garnished it with some opinion. Deal with it dude.
Over-reacting would insinuate that my disapproval of this thread has some bearing on my real-life mood, or actions...or even in how I deal with the other people of charas.
this thread has the suck cranked to ten, and we need it at a seven, max...Im old and cant hear what you say over the loud suckiness of this thread. Lucas' thread is at like three.
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I told you how I deal with the situation youve asked about, and garnished it with some opinion. Deal with it dude.
Over-reacting would insinuate that my disapproval of this thread has some bearing on my real-life mood, or actions...or even in how I deal with the other people of charas.
this thread has the suck cranked to ten, and we need it at a seven, max...Im old and cant hear what you say over the loud suckiness of this thread. Lucas' thread is at like three.
No I was saying you overreacted because of your first post/rant in this thread that when you incorrectly thought I was asking for advice from the people here to the point you called me a girly bitch.
You seem overly bitter and childish in every post in this thread because it meets your "dissaproval". Yes you told me how you dealt with the situation thats fine but you were at the point that it's like you're 3 years old and someone said they hated your favorite game so you threw a small tantrum.
Meh whatever I'm done with this back and forth "argument" I don't feel like continueing it anymore over something so amazingly pointless.
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Christ let it go.
You fella's don't need to comment everything the other says. Just roll with it.
Lovely insight though.
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Just roll with it.
In regards to the original topic, I say this.
**** happens, let it go.
[offtopic]
...Gemini is gay?
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Yep. Out of the Closet. For what its worth, Im about the most straight-acting (the other gays hate when you say that) gay dude in my neck of the woods.Lucas is not a homophobe. Honestly, out of most of the people Ive met on charas, that kid is one of the best.
The emotional "im a snowflake" types need to choke on something.Ive never understood what would make a gay man want to talk like, look like, or behave like a girl/woman. If you are attracted to men, and want to attract men who are attracted to men, why one would pull the Diva card is beyond me. If you are a man. Be a man. If youre a Woman, be one.
Honestly I didnt even know Nandez was a boy (and i use that term loosely) until this thread.
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Omg I thought we got done with this "emo/nandez looks like a girl" thing months ago in the picture thread.
Let's not backtrack, moving on. (Plus i'm feminine even if I don't wear makeup people still mistake me for a girl anyway :P)
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have you ever tried...you know... being a man?lol
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They weren't talking about you Nandez y'know. Lucas just stated that he isn't homophobic - he's emophobic .
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They weren't talking about you Nandez y'know. Lucas just stated that he isn't homophobic - he's emophobic .
Honestly I didnt even know Nandez was a boy (and i use that term loosely) until this thread.
If Gem is actually gay and out of the closet, then thats pretty awesome. I mean, despite what some people think (I'm looking at you, Val) I'm not homophobic at all. I just don't like emos. The whole "Hey world look at me Imma cutting my writs" thing is retarded. And the fact that they keep trying to look like they have no gender. But manly gays and transgenders (if you want to look like a woman, do it right) are pretty cool. The ones that admit being gay at least. Telling people that you are gay for the first time takes some serious balls and I respect them for that.
I think Lucas post was directed back to Celebrity Crush thread of I don't hate Nandez because he likes guys (since he said me admitting to liking a guy killed a topic) just hates me cause I'm "Emo".
(even if it wasn't good to know) I'm puzzled as to why he used me liking a guy a insult when he isn't homophobic :P but anyways yes lets move on past this stuff. Oh and gemini you sohuld have known I was a guy you asked if I was a guy once before.
Doei :)
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I'm more of the Gem belief, where the uber-feminine guys annoy me.
Actually, I'm rather annoyed when any one person acts like the stereotype their subculture/culture has...it's more like they're basing their beliefs in the ridiculous things that people who hate that subculture say.
I readily admit to being a goth...I'm fascinated by death, usually wear blackish colours, and get a kick out of black humor. Cut my wrist goth types annoy the piss out of me. Do want you want, instead of doing what other people think you should be doing.
lol, this topic is probably going to get locked.
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This topic shoulda been locked before we got to page 2 before the drama started.
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Hey, at least you admit it.
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Only when the flaming starts.
Which is inevitable when Nandez is the one with the topic...
Man, you're like a drama magnet, you know that?
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Well I'm kinda late to the party, but I wanted to give some input. Most of my breakups have been hard and emotional, but that's because those relationships were serious. You can't just sit there and cry and beg, but instead try to talk things over and find out what went wrong (as long as it didn't end all violent an crazy). You just have to get over it and move on, but telling people to suck it up an be a man is totally not right, I think it takes more character to feel a wide range of emotions - including sadness - than to just be a stone (or I guess to some people, a MAN). Also I use the mistakes I made to improve and try to avoid making the same mistakes as last time. But each breakup is like a new chance to try out new things. Each end is a new beginning, and crap like that.
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Only when the flaming starts.
Which is inevitable when Nandez is the one with the topic...
Man, you're like a drama magnet, you know that?
Most of the time I don't really do anything to get flamed. Actually though the only person who really flamed me was Lucas and maybe two others in the picture thread most people just poked fun which I didn't mine (like Archem) and Lucas hasn't really flamed me in this topic and I doubt he was going too.
The only real flame was gemini's first post. It's not like I was asking for drama or to be flamed just chose a topic I was curious about, maybe next time I'll choose a topic that has a a smaller chance of turning dramatic.
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Shush.
Just...let it go.
You really like to drag arguments out, man.
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This topic shoulda been locked before we got to page 2 before the drama started.
Not really how I roll, and the other mods are lazy, so...
You could do a lot worse than taking advice from gemini... who *skims thread* is apparently gay? ... anyway though. Guy's a cynical bastard for sure, but at least he's realistic about things.
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Ok I have to ask no this is not a "Charas Is My Journal" post but I was wondering have you guys ever broke up with anyone like really broke up not like hey its over I mean have you ever broke up with anyone and gone through this entire hour long scene?
Like some of my relationships have gone on way longer than they should just because I couldn't do it from their crying and begging just couldn't follow through with it. Like dude you have to be cold hearted to get through that. How the hell do you get through that crap cause I'm sure out of everyone here one of you have at least once. I mean really.
Ok I have to ask .............. I was wondering have you guys ever broke up with anyone like really broke up not like hey its over I mean....................
Like some of my relationships have..................... because I couldn't do it from their crying and begging........................cold hearted to get through that........................I'm sure out of everyone here one of you have at least once. I mean really.
You clearly were asking for advice. Its all of all. It has all been on topic. I didn't flame. You asked for my opinion and then got sand in your vagina when I gave it to you.
No rule has been broken. I was blunt. You asked. But apparently I'm not entitled to have insight that is not convenient to your motives. The issue here is not gender or your cultural niche, but the fact that you behave like a spoiled child...but then again, it appears that you behave as such because you are one.
The mods typically don't lock all of all topics that have no reason to be locked. I could have locked the topic myself, if I had any reason to do so. I fail to understand why this discussion would merit such consequence
...... I was ... crying and begging.....
P.S. Thanks Sai
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i knew that pink in his sig meant something.
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That would mean that Zuhane knows/knew something...
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Lmao it's funny too see you pretend to know something when you know nothing about me gemini.
Believe what you want I'm tired of you acting like a brat. So calling me a "girly bitch" isn't flaming or at least insulting? It's amusing to me how you think I have a motive if I really wanted advice on how to break up with someone I wouldn't ask people on a forum were I constantly get flamed in 80% of the topics I make a comment in after the last time I actually did ask advice. Oh and spoiled? Don't make me laugh. I'm may be vain, shallow, and egotistical but I am a long way from spoiled. I'm not the only one who thinks this should have been locked I just thought it should be to prevent it from turning into a flame war.
Either way I'm done replying in this topic and to you. I'm tired of your complete stupidity pretending you have this incredible insight into my nonexsitent motive.
What got on my nerves was what not your comments, insult, or your "advice" it was you annoyingly insisting I made this topic because I wanted advice Like you can read my mind when I made this topic because I was ****ing bored at 4 A.M. and couldn't think of anything better to make a topic about. You don't need gemini's incredibly insight to figure that I'm simply just annoyed that after I was willing to let this topic go anywhere it wanted and stop going back and forth with you and let everything fall to the side and forget this crap but for some reason you wanted to just keep going and dragging this crap out.
Doei, I'm done with this topic and this conversation. Have fun.
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Charas is not a touchy-feely forum. And all I've seen you do is make topics about relationships and associated stuff. It doesn't mesh well with the dynamic of the board at all so you get a harsh response.
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Doei, I'm done with this topic and this conversation. Have fun.
No you're not. Gemini's a douche, and you're a punk, and I am a psychiatrist.
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HTML has a huge sig.
I think the boobs make it so that I don't really care, though.
Yeah, what Hobo said, though.
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The profile things says I barely make it before the limit.
And don't pay attention to the boobs, pay attention to the robot's reaction! That's why I have it!
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He looks shocked.
I'd be more like 'o.o than O.o
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Well, both HTML and Sai's sigs includes boobs. At first it was a bit "whoa, maybe I should scroll up a little bit to avoid that" but after some year(s) it kinda lost the effect. It's just another part of the forum now.
No staring at boobs or anything although other people sometimes react like "what the hell are you doing looking at cartoon porn?"
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My sig was supposed to be kind of a "Hey, Charas is awesome, look at all these characters people made" kind of thing. Um, with swimsuits and boobs, I guess.
I guess I'm due for a new one. Though that'll probably include boobs too actually. There's no real escape.
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You can keep it, it's not like anyone minds. Don't feel pressured to do a new one with more boobs.
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(coming out of the closet to my then-fiance for one).
You just got called a girly bitch by a confirmed homosexual. FYI
Holy **** Gem, I never knew you were!
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...Gemini is gay?
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If Gem is actually gay and out of the closet, then thats pretty awesome. I mean, despite what some people think (I'm looking at you, Val) I'm not homophobic at all. I just don't like emos. The whole "Hey world look at me Imma cutting my writs" thing is retarded. And the fact that they keep trying to look like they have no gender. But manly gays and transgenders (if you want to look like a woman, do it right) are pretty cool. The ones that admit being gay at least. Telling people that you are gay for the first time takes some serious balls and I respect them for that.
This was a very off topic post, sorry.
Apparently I'm not the only one who didn't know. But I also respect the amount of courage it takes to stand up and admit who you are, and tell everyone else to accept you as you are.
I can't believe how this thread changed topics.
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Has he told us to accept who he is?
Also Gurren Lagann is NOT cartoon porn. For more consultation on the matter of cartoon porn, you should ask Midnight.
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Also Gurren Lagann is NOT cartoon porn. For more consultation on the matter of cartoon porn, you should ask Midnight.
I'm not saying that it's cartoon porn. But there are ignorant people everywhere who haven't seen video game nor anime boobs. And that tends to lead to some strange conclusions.
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Cool. but just stating the record straight.
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This is why I used Adblock on it. Problem solved.
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Also Gurren Lagann is NOT cartoon porn. For more consultation on the matter of cartoon porn, you should ask Midnight.
Not the easiest character to consult these days, at least for me :(
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Why does that strike me as odd.
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It may not be cartoon porn... but... RULE 34.
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It's not like it was hard for it anyway.