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You guys have it lucky. I doubt you've ever had to deal with a creepy girl.
-- This has been a rare, serious, potentially helpful post from the desk of Archem.
Now, you men....need to learn what nonverbal cues mean a woman doesn't want to talk to you. Lack of eye contact. Terse responses. Not smiling. Walking away. The fun thing about nonverbal language is, if interpreted properly, it means no one has to be "shot down" or feel embarrassingly rejected. It makes it easier for everyone.
Jesus Christ, if only that were true! I'm like a creepy girl magnet! I mean, I'm far from an attractive young man myself, but apparently I'm just attractive enough to get the strange ones to try and form a rather uncomfortable relationship with me. Believe it or not, I've been through your dilemma more than a few times, and while you may want to spare your creepy follower's feelings, it's often best to let them know how uncomfortable they make you feel. If you don't, you end up with a more serious stalker (first-hand experience here) who somehow starts getting a hold of uncomfortably large amounts of personal, sometimes private information about you.The best course of action is to let them down gently; "I'm sorry, but I'm really not interested in what you have to say right now." "I'm a little busy, mind if we cut this chat short?" "You're being a little creepy right now. I don't want you to feel awkward, but you're making me feel awkward." These are the best ways to go about hinting in a more verbal fashion that they're bothering you with their behavior or that you'd like to have them cease their contact. If they just don't get the hint, then you need to vocalize it more: "Please leave me alone, I don't feel like talking to you." I know it seems rude, but some people just don't get when they're going too far.Having a penis doesn't make these things any easier. We're culturally molded to treat women with respect, to be polite to them, to not do anything that would make them unhappy. We're basically treading a minefield every time we have to talk to any women who we don't know personally enough. It's really hard to treat a person of the opposite gender the way you want to when you've been trained to treat them "the way you should", and this just makes things even more difficult when they're not on the same page of the Social Standards Handbook. Most of us here are men, and we have the men's perspective on this situation. Our advice (whether you want it or not) may not be perfect or 100% guaranteed to work, but at least we have a better idea of how your (for lack of a better term) aggressor's mind works.-- This has been a rare, serious, potentially helpful post from the desk of Archem.
I've had creepy girls follow ME around... also one time it was a guy, that was EXTRA creepy.
Oh yeah. I had an emo-guy who stalked me for a while with more... erhm. "Serious intentions". But it was easier to make him change his mind than making these girls. I do have a girlfriend. They are aware. They just don't see how it matters. They somehow(for some odd reason beyond my understanding) believe that I would dump my girlfriend for them once they've been around me enough. That I, (for some reason) would start to like them more than her. And that's creepy.I'm not sure anymore. Nerdy-stalking creepy. Seeking social company and/or something more.Pervert-stalking creepy. Seeking sexual company and/or something more.Or obsessive-stalking creepy. Seeking relationship and/or a lifetime together with them(?).Which one is the worst..?
#2 of course.And to try to elaborate on my point...Yes, I now see that guys definitely do deal with creepy girls. However, it's not quite the same. While you may feel threatened by a creepy girl, you probably aren't truly terrified because if it came down to it, you could probably physically overpower her. I may work out, but I doubt I could physically overpower a male that is larger than I am. Then there's also the difficulty of a woman trying to rape a man.There may be cases where a girl is insane enough that you really do fear for your safety, but overall I believe creepy women are less of a threat than creepy men.Thankfully, I've yet to feel truly afraid of a creepy guy.
Ehm, well she stated that she prefers not to get violent or threatening.
Huh? How do you do that? I was tought if they mess with you, hurt them bad.
First off, this is the reason you buy a knife and threaten to chop his balls off. I mean if I were a female in your position I would invite him to my house and show him my blade work. A weapon never fails you if you know how to use it and don't mind getting you're hand a little dirty, so to say. If you can't carry a knife to school take a small spray bottle and mix some Chili peppers and alcohol together and when you feel threatened shoot it in his face. That'll show him.
