~The mad corner~

[Rune_of_Punishment]

The process to forgetting or thinking about someone(s) is quite simple. Adjust your mind and think about something else. If you have to, associate them with something you don't care much for. That makes it easier to forget. It's all about training the mind.

I was caught up in my own girl situation not so long ago. I wasted 3 months of my life pursuing her because she led me on, but behind the scenes she was telling her friends that I was stalking her, leading to misunderstandings. So, yeah, just work on forgetting. It's not too hard if you're willing to do it.

[AsakuraHao2004]

Hmm... alright. Help me.

I love my girlfriend, and I only get 3 months with her, then I have to go back home. Thing is, I live far away, and Im pretty sure her parents wont let her go back with me. I can't stay there... that part of the story's complicated, but I just cant. What should I do?

[Trevlac]

There's a girl I like.  A good girl for once.  There are two types of women in this world: Girls that guys want to date, and girls that guys want to marry.  She's the type that boys would rather marry than date.  She has all of the qualities that a person like me could want.  However, after school ended, her friends won't say anything about her to me.

Oh they'll talk to me all the same (I made everyone laugh in class while we were still in school) but when I try to leave a message on their Xanga like, Hey, where does Rachel go to church?  Everyone ignores it.  But they seem to notice every other comment I leave.  I don't really know her friends well enough to ask their numbers (and since they're all female, they might get the wrong impression.)

That's not the biggest problem.  It is very likely that she is interested in me (subtle things in class) but she is a shy girl and as far as I know, has not told any guy (or more than one in her life) that she's attracted to him, probably because of fear of rejection or such.  That, or I am just so attracted to her that I am filling my own mind with her thoughts.

Nevertheless, I now face a dilemma; do I come straight out and tell her how I feel (this is disasterous in any situation I have come across before) hoping that my assumptions are correct and do this so that there is not confusion in her as to whether or not I am interested, or try to become her friend instead and just stay friends?  I really wouldn't mind either.  I just know that girls say they have all the friends they need and so most of the time they reject even a friendship.

But I feel that if I come across as "just wanting to be friends" I'll betray her trust in that my original intentions were for dating.  Another option has occurred to me recently, and that is to try and appeal to her by attending her church (the only social place she goes without her friends) and slowly reveal my feelings and who I am to her.  Remind her of the things she may like about me: Compassion, wit, randomness, an uncanny ability to know something about everything (or at least pretend I do...), and my overall tendancy to not follow rigid customs or be like every other "typical guy".

This is a relationship that I desperately wish to persue.  If anyone has advice *looks at Mid* please feel free to share it.  I'll pop a happy pill in the meantime. *pop*

[Osmose]

Tell the truth. It will be better in the long run.

[Midnight9795]

Originally posted by Osmose
Tell the truth. It will be better in the long run.

^ What he said, I can't really get to reading everything in the moment since I'm about to go, but I agree with Osmose. But keep in mind, the truth hurts. So if your rejected, move on. If not, good for you! *leaves after stealing a pill < <;; > >;;*

[Robotam]

 Helpie for Trevie

I'll try to help there, Trev. First thing you've fallen for this girl and you sound like you could give up on this any second. Don't!
I'm for digging up the relationship between you to all the way.
The reason her friends doesn't tell you what church is making me wonder, it could be because they don't like you and know she does, it could be because she's in pain somehow and her friends wouldn't reveal her secret place to a random guy like you or it could be because they know she doesn't like you.
...Or it could be any of the other millions of reasons out there, but you're ain't going to think about the reasons, you're gonna to go for it and find out what church she goes to whether they like it or not.
Do you know where she lives, Trevlac? Because if you did it might be closest church from there. Girls don't prefer it far away.
You have to do a little planning here Trev, and the option I say you go for is the church.

1.
Search for her on the yellow pages or something and find out where she lives.

2.
Then you check on the map where the closest church from there is located.

3.
You don't know when she's there, do you? If she's there so often then ask the priest about it, he should know. If he won't tell you'll simply have to wait.  

So, Trev.. What do you say? We go with my pimp plan?  

[Trevlac]

Well, the yellowpages thing shall be a breeze, as her lastname is quite unique: Ukens.

[Spike21]

i am afraid of lppk face to face with people because my face has so many scars and people have insulted me because of my scars

[Legendary Troy]

ok i need opinions:

I just got into high school and im planning to play Junior Varsity football, but my mom wont let me instead she signed me up for JROTC (military class) and i never knew untill i picked up my scedule.

I am pissed i went back home and argued with her, then she said "ok go play football, just remember ur dead grandfather always wanted u to join the army and i dont want u to dissapoint him" i said " I have all the time in the world to join the military, why now when im still a kid fighting for a dream of being a NFL player(i know alost impossible)"

then she put a little guilt on me saying "since ur great-great grandfather every generation has joined the army and succeded at it"

So what should i do?

[Spike21]

i say do wha your dreams are not other people my mom has do that to me before and said what my grandfather was like and said i should be like him and fufill his dreams but i have dreams too and you do too so always shoot high.

[Trevlac]

I'm not trying to ignore you, I just need to give an update here.  I dunno if this was right, but I found her address and mapquest'd the nearest churches.  Then I went to Sonja, who is one of her friends, Xanga, and asked if *insert churches* are where she and Rachel go to church as I would like to see them both very soon.  Now there is NO WAY she is going to ignore that...come on.

[Robotam]

They might not want to reveal anything of themselfs so the chance is still their.

[Trevlac]

I hope Sonja doesn't mistake my kind heartedness towards her in the past as attraction.  She's attractive, true, but I am interested in Rachel and girls have a funny thinga bout thinking every guy is attracted to them if he is polite or nice or caring in any way.

[Darkfox]

*sigh* Im depressed I cant get my friend to be my girlfriend *sob*

Trying to make a female friend a girlfriend can cause a devistating effect. Being desperate and so forth is also a sign of weakness, patience is a virtue, same reason you shouldn't fall for every pretty face, don't know what your getting into.

In any case, be ok with being friends, afterall, as a saying goes "Good friends are closer than family." And if you've watched Gungrave it pretty much expresses that quite effectively.

So yeah, give it time. There's another saying but for the life of me I can't remember it right now. Somthing along the lines of "Rush a relationship, destroy a friendship."

[PikaTira]

Usually I am the one giving advice to a friend but now I really need some advice.

Okay how to start:

Ever since I was a little girl I believed that if I fell in love it would ruin my life, due to the fact that it has happen to most of my family. When I was in my old school, I had no problem keeping this belief. But when I moved, I meet a guy who likes the same things I do and a month ago he asked me to be his girlfriend, so I said yes. But now my family and I are scared that "my family's curse" will happen and everything I worked for will go down the drain. I love him so much but I can never get rid of this belief, it has happen so many times. Was it wrong for me to say yes or am I just going crazy? What should I do?


If you are wondering how many times it has happen? Well, let just say my uncle on my father's side and my aunt on my mom's side are the only ones who did not fall to the curse. (And I have a big family)