Help Charas :(

[DragonBlaze]

Originally posted by Noobpwner
man I did the same thing as your gf scuicide and **** but the pills were for a high lol.  Anyway realy ive quit cuttin scuicide attempts,drugs etc. after my family and friends began to respect me for who i am and not pick out bad things about me.

     Is your girlfriend a real nice person who tries not to hurt others feelings? Its just a question.

Yeah, shes a really nice person, she never does anything to hurt anyone, shes a good person, but she doesn't believe it, no matter what I do.

She doesn't want me to hold her hand or walk with her or give her a ride or anything because she thinks she doesn't deserve me




EDIT: Heres a letter she gave me today.

I'M SORRY

the trying to help isn't going to work. so you can stop trying. I'm sorry. I'm doing this though. You don't know how I feel. I'll give you a hint "last nights feeling".

I really know you want to help and I don't mean to push you away, but I don't deserve you or anything. Please don't say I do cuz I don't. I don't do anything in this world. I don't do laundry, clean, cook, know how to be a good daughter, know how to have my dad think I'm trying.

I'm sorry.

I can't believe I'm saying this and my stomach really hurts for saying this but, stop helping cuz I don't deserve it. I didn't kill myself, I'm going to eat, I'm living for you. What else do you want from me. I'm already dieing inside, and living in hell on the outside. What else can I do wrong to maky you happy? Huh? I'm trying as hard as I can but I don't seem to please you. God I am a bad girlfriend, and I am. don't say I'm not or I'll do something bad to my stomach. I'm afriad to say I love you now cuz I'll cry. And you almost made me cry today

love (name)

[Grandy]

You're her boyfriend, not her therapist. You have no reason not to call for professional help if this happens again. Even therapists have the right to do that if a man says he's going to commit suicide.

 My suggestion is, hold for now, but at the first sign she'll do something crazy, call for professional help.

 *reads letter*

 ....Emo. Sorry, but it is. Let me frank with you, it's a girl who deseperatly wanting attention, that's why most people suicide, anyway.

 Try and show you that you love her, and try and make that other people do that as well.

 BUT, if she looks like out of control, call for professional help.

 You don't have to take verything at your hands, it is not your fault. **** it if she was going to get upset if other people know about it, her life is more important.

[thepsynergist]

All you have to do is to keep caring for her like you always did.  Spend some time with her, make her feel like she is loved.  I had a problem like this, i.e. friend trying to kill himself, and I just made him feel better.  He tried to slit his wrist with a box-cutter when he lost at SSBM.  I hope that making her feel better, helps her with her suicide problem.

[MrMister]

If she's telling you before hand, she's just selfish/looking for attention.
Unfortunately she's also psychotic.
Also, when she asked how many pills it takes to kill someone, you should have said '2'.

edit: Livejournal threads are bad.

[Shady Ultima]

Damn, that letter is sad..

Ok, so stick by her side. And no matter what she says, don't stop trying to help, because that will show her you don't care enough. MOST IMPORTANTLY DO NOT TREAT HER LIKE SHE HAS ISSUES. If you do this, it will make her hurt a lot more. Treat her good, and keep doin what you can to prove to her you really care.

[DragonBlaze]

This is really pissing me off, every time I try to touch her, she gets mad at me cause she says she doesn't deserve to be touched. Everytime I tell her that shes a good person, she yells that she isn't and then she gets upset that I'm not believing her. All day shes been trying to get away from me, I pretty much had to drag her in my car this morning otherwise she was going to walk to school instead of driving or taking the bus.

So yeah, I might call a professional, but since shes under 18, her parents need to get involved, and that'll make everything worse.

And shes not bipolar, she just gets this way if she  gets **** all day from her family.

[Moosetroop11]

Hrmm.

Well, I don't want to get too judgemental, seeing as you're the only one here who actually know your girlfriend. My initial reaction was the same as Grandy's though. every time you've quoted something she's said it sounds like the same stuff you hear every day from people who are trying too hard to be emo.

I'm not sure what to suggest though. I have no idea why she thinks she's so worthless, for one thing. What on earth is that about? What makes someone deserve love? Again, this not deserving crap sounds like attention seeking to the max. Who refuses to take the bus because they're depressed?

Urgh, everything I say sounds negative. Okay, the problem might be that you're not saying the right things. Saying "you're not worthless" and "I love you" over and over again might not be what she needs. If you can, you need to sit her down somewhere and tell her that you're not going to leave her, so she'd better tell you what you can do to help.

[Ben]

Shes totally being selfish.

Dont coddle this. Dont be a jerk either, but it sounds to me like shes got alot of growing up to do.

If this girl had any respect for the ones she "Loved" She wouldnt be putting any of you through this. Shes wants the spotlight, and she wants the world to change for her...to coddle her....

I have no sympathy

[Desimodontidae]

Originally posted by DragonBlaze
he dumped her for a stripper.

That made it worth reading =)

[Meiscool-2]

Wow.

She's dumb.

Tell her you don't deserve her or something.

[Revolution911]

Maybe it would be different if I was in love with her but I have no sympathy for this chick. I dont think she's an attention whore. I just think she's...dumb. Does she really even listen to her father complain at this point? If she does than sorry, but she's dumb (Dont take me the wrong way if I sound like a prick insulting your girlfriend. Theres alot of words I could've chosen from.) I dont care what anyone says. It is EASY to ignore somebody. I dont see why she cant ignore her father complaining all the time. I do. It is not rocket science. Nod your head and say yes and BAM. Before you know it, he's gone.



Maybe I'll sound harsh if I say this but break up with her. If you say with her it just sounds like you'll get this **** for the next year. Its not worth it. But if you really really do love her, I would suggest telling her straight up. "Stop acting like a 4 yr old."

[Krynth]

It's been mentioned once but I've only dealt with a few friends who ever attempted...as for how your handling it.... its alot better than how I did...


Story:

Well one was very emo and a attention hog but didnt find that out till after I snapped at her...well yea I've been trying to support her just about every-night to where the only time she wanted to talk was when she had problems. She would yell at me then threatens to kill herself for trying to help and give advise then it got to the point that I lost my patience one night cause she was really making me depressed and annoyed then came back all happy saying she cut herself (Ok forgot to mention but she would cut herself to deal with the emotional pain...)

Ummm yea she complains about her love life and nobody caring, I listen and try to make her feel better, she goes off and come back after cutting herself, I've just about lost my patience then finding out what she did it, I yell at her, then lost contact with her but what I've learned from the small talks I had with her after the fight things were getting better, she has boyfriend, and has stopped complaining...to me anyhow.

[MrMister]

Yeah, she has absolutely no respect for you.
You need to find a new girl.

[Ben]

Think about this too....

If youre gonna kill yourself, it takes about 7 seconds to swallow a bottle of pills if youre washing it down with water.

And she still had pills left.

Let me guess, she wrote a note.

Most legitamate suicide attempts DONT leave a note.

I dont think shes dumb. I think she knows exactly how to play the situation. If you love her, honestly, youd tell her to grow the eff up

[aboutasoandthis]

I really, really think you should tell her parents. I mean if you care about her, you would do it.

Do not handle this yourself. That is just stupid.