Utterly betrayed

[zuhane]

I was with a girl for over a year. We did everything together. I'd give her my jacket if she was cold, walk her home safely
at 2 in the morning, pay for her taxis, share my lunch with her at college. We were deeply in love. I'm talking, like, "The Notebook"
kind of level. Anyway, things got our of hand and she hurt my feelings way too often with unnecessary insults and snide remarks.

I had to end it. That's why I've not really been working on my game, posting much, or even done anything productive. Anyway, my cousin
used to say how lucky I was and how he'd do anything for a girlfriend like that. I shrugged it off and thought "Yeah, he's just being nice". Anyway,
he started asking me on Steam/Facebook if I was okay and if I missed her and if it was absolutely final. After that, I had to eventually update
Facebook and say that I was single, since people thought I was being weird. My cousin commented and said "Awwwh, so you're absolutely definitely
broken up now? ", and I told him we were.

My cousin and I have always been close and gotten on well, since, well, I've known him since I was born! Anyway, my ex and I still get on
closely and in a complicated way, and she showed me some of his texts he'd sent her. He gave her his phone number incase she wanted "cheering up"
and wanted someone to talk to.

I've just added everything together. He said he'd do anything for a girl like that, kept asking if I still liked her, in which I glaringly obviously wrote
"Yes, I still love her" and "Of course I do. She still means everything to me". He must have read it wrong and thought I'd put "She's free for the taking!"
Anyway, tangent over. I read the text and it said "hey hunni hope ur okay wish you were here lol :p xxxx lyl xxxx" and another saying "i'm off out 2
the cinema with my mates. why dont u come? xxxx" Now, I'm not one to be paranoid, but he barely knows the girl. I just know that he was rather
partial to making comments about how he wished he had a girlfriend like her.

He's clearly betrayed me. I told him I still love her and need her, and he went behind my back like a slimy little rat. My own cousin. I feel dirty being
related to him. What makes it worse is that I know his intentions, and what he's like with women, and they don't involve developing a meaningful relationship. My ex girlfriend, God

bless her, stopped replying to any of his messages and showed me what he'd put. At least I can trust her not to hurt me, since we're pretty close and involved in
a complex moral contract where we decide not to hurt each other in any way until we're both ready to take off.

I don't know. I just feel that life's **** enough without having to worry that your own family member's going to betray you.

[zuhane]

Why would he wish that she was there? For what possible reason? He's met her, like, twice or something.

[Prpl_Mage]

Yeah. bound by blood just isn't what it used to be.

[Archem]

Hey, if you're not with the girl anymore, he's entirely within his rights to hook up with her. I mean, I understand that you still care for her, but you're through with her as far as that relationship goes. Unless I've really missed something, there's nothing wrong with him stepping in and taking over once you've severed that connection. And hey, it happens. Deal with it.

[zuhane]

I've spent hours telling him how much I miss her and still love her and about hwo we'd spend every single night together.

He could pick any girl in the entire world.

Are you serious, Archem?

[Archem]

Yes. Are you? Because it sounds like you're focusing on what used to be instead of what is. Hell, from the sounds of it, you were too lost in the idea of a relationship to see what was so wrong with it in the first place. She wasn't right for you.

[Darkfox]

When did I sign onto MyFace?

Also, I agree with Archem, this is totally unhealthy. A case of goddess complex where one obsesses over a single girl even if the relationship has met its end. This is unhealthy and I suggest not persisting further or else you'll drive yourself insane. Though I'll assume it is a bit late for that, case and point that we are here now discussing it.

[HackersTotalMassLaser]

Kick her in the nuts and move on. Girls like that NEED to be offended so  they get their stupid ass minds straight.
OOh and your cousin too.


And stop posting your personal discrepancies on charas.

[zuhane]

I came to charas because it's a place where people think like me and act as a community.

I've had some... harsh... replies. Ah well. Maybe I have built up a goddess complex...

This is harder than quitting hard drugs or something, though.

EDIT: Does anyone here actually know what it feels like to be in love and get heartbroken, by the way?

[Cerebus]

I suppose it's pretty much normal that you feel this way. However, if your cousin started up something with her while you were not together, I don't think it's really a betrayal. Yes, he took opportunity in this situation (or it seems like it) but... can you really blame him? It's not like he tried something while you too were still together. I do understand your point of view, but I don't think it's really a betrayal.

I never had this happen to me. Maybe if I had this happen I'd be angry at my cousin too... but would my anger really be justified? I doubt it.

[HackersTotalMassLaser]

EDIT: Does anyone here actually know what it feels like to be in love and get heartbroken, by the way?

Seriously. Do you need someone to emo up with your or something?

[Felix-0]

EDIT: Does anyone here actually know what it feels like to be in love and get heartbroken, by the way?

Yes. I was with my ex for 11 months, she broke up with me, 11 days from our first year. Then she goes and tries to date another guy, and that fails. I laugh.
She gets with another guy, that fails. I laugh again. Pretty much I just look at my ex and say "You fucked up by leaving me, since most men around you and at your school only want your vag..."

Much happier with the one I have now...

Seriously. Do you need someone to emo up with your or something?

What do you think I'm here for?

[Prpl_Mage]

Cerebus got a point. It's not like he hit on her while you were together. He at least waited 'till after you broke up and you declared that it's definitely over.

Would you've been happier if he asked you for permission first?
I'd pretty much expect my cousins to do bad things if things went down the drain.

[Felix-0]

Well, he's expecting his cousant to not touch her. Family rues thing. Kinda like don't date your ex's best friend. It just causes problems.
Don't date family ex's. Caused alot of problems between my bro and my step bro. :/

[Cerebus]

Though it does usually bring problem, it is still not justified. Usually one being jealous that his cousin/brother/friend/whatever took the role he failed to fulfil. Or something. I think.