A serious question

[X_marks_the_ed]

Yes, I kicked it again, expect it a few more times, too. I just really need help with this.
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(Too bad, Gemmy. You may be gai 4 me, but I sure ain't gai for u kthxbai)

I'm going to be blunt; I think I like a girl in my school.  

I found we have many things in common. Besides, the fact, I find her really attractive, unlike everyone else apparently. She has he traits I like in a girl: Brunette, chestnut eyes, and a little on the short side. She is dark, but not emo or gothic, she enjoys anime (with plots, not action), she likes much of the music I like (yes, even Dragostea Din Tei), and she has a great sense of humor. She seems just like my type.

We have talked a bit, but no real conversation between us has occured. By now you should have established what I'm going to ask, but for those who haven't gotten the hint: WHAT THE HELL DO I SAY TO THIS GIRL? >.<

The problem isn't so much as actually talking to her, I can do that. It's just what should I say to her to get "us" on "that path?" I've been adoring this girl for three months, we should at least be friends by now. *HeaddeskHARD*

[Ganocide_of_a_Kingdom]

I don't know what you should say or do. But, you seem to be very into her right now, I would tell you whatever you do, do not ruin the friendship you have. Sometimes approaching it's not the best thing. Ask yerself first if she seems interested in you that way first, otherwise you might just scare her off.

[Almeidaboo]

If you two are really so similar, worry not, yerself. Cause conversation will flow.

Just don't touch her too much, girls find that annoying. And build up you upper body, you seem to be the stick-figure type of guy XD

[aboutasoandthis]

Find a nice source of money like say $80+ and then ask her out to a place like the mall. It's a great way to find out her personality.

[Ben]

I am crushed....WAIT.....Im over it.

ask her if she wants to go to a movie dude. Movies are non threatening. Hang out with her. Thats a pretty key step.

[Ben]

dont listen to that.

it can get mighty akward mighty fast.

Do not treat women like they are geese that you are trying to hunt for thanksgiving dinner

[Prpl_Mage]

I don't want to sound negative now but asking her out to the movies might appear desperate in some cases. We had to read a novel in school. God did that guy mess the date up...

Yeah, don't touch her too much, you might seem like you're a pervert or just want to get under her clothes.
Just stay cool, try to focus a bit but don't try to hard; something tells me that she'll notice.

And I donno if you have some shared classes. But if you do: Place yourself close to her so you could help her out or ask her for help. Or even just curse the tasks together because none of you knows it. And if she helps you; don't forget to thank her.

And really, just spend time with her on a daily ruitine, asking her out may be straying a bit away from the safe road in my oppinion.
Try to get to the next level when she is used and appreciates having you around.

Oh, of course. Learn as much about her as possible by listening to her or just taking notice to things she do. It will make you understand her better in any case.

But good luck to ye'. Just be yourself and don't do anything unexpected.

[Moosetroop11]

A girl you find attractive that likes decent anime and the same music you like. You probably don't realise how lucky you are >.>

Anyway, don't miss the opportunity whatever you do. In my experience girls generally pay attention to you in the first few weeks of knowing them and if you make no move they lose interest. Well, they lose interest if you have a 'fade into the background' type of socialising method anyway, which I'm guessing you might.

[Dragonium]

Spend time with her, it'll happen. Relax and be yourself. Do all the stuff everyone always tells you. Yes, it's said a lot. That's because it's what you should do. ;P

I also agree with Prpl. Give her hugs, they're great, but don't be too touchy-feely, or you look like one of those guys who's only after sex and who deserve a swift but painful castration/death.

I too am having girl troubles. You're not alone.

The girl in question for me lives 100 miles away and we've not actually met. We're pretty close. We've been trying to organise a meet-up but it's not happening.

Sorry to hijack your thread buddy.

[Yellowvanblake]

Shoot dude, I don't wanna sound brash or boorish; but as long as you're in high school this is probably not going to be a chick that you'll know in 5-10 years if that.

So yeah, spend time around her or whatever until you're comfortable with each other and then ask her out soon as that 'comfortable' state comes around. Don't be creepy about it, everyone's saying that I guess but it's a big thing. Don't build so much on your introduction per say. Introductions are boring after too long, albeit important.

Worse thing that can happen is you get rejected and accelerate the process of 'unknowing' each other, if she's real cool (and you are too), you might just get rejected and still get to be friends with one another.


In the end, just do whatever you feel is right. I know it's uber cliche, but there's really no way to go wrong if you go about doing things 'right'.

That's my two cents.

[X_marks_the_ed]

I do have french class with her, but she's usually bored out her mind by then and refuses contact with anyone. <.< Another we unfortunately share. I like to sitting close to her idea, but our french teacher is retarded and chooses seats for us.

The best chances to talk to her are during lunch, when she sits at the same table. (Found out she likes the Devil May Cry manga there, who knew?)

I'm not much of a stick figure, I'm average. I'll do some pushups, but I don't bench 300. >.<

they lose interest if you have a 'fade into the background' type of socialising method anyway, which I'm guessing you might.

I think that's a given.



She has told me I am more social than her friends are, I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. I consider myself pretty much a 'king of shadows' as we call them here.


I never realised it was this hard, trying to start a conversation, I mean. Everything I think of says sounds wrong, even "How's your day been?" after she asks me.

[Prpl_Mage]

Well, tell her that french sucks if you ever get the chance to sit clsoe to her during french and notie her boredom. It'll at least give you a few laughts.

If you've played the Devil may cry games, ask her if she ever played them or seen anyone play. No idea how much she likes the manga but she might be intressed in the game as well.
And if you have some skills, that's awesome.

If she says that she played them: Then try to starta a conversation about it, hardest bosses, greatest moment, wich game was the best ect. It will also strengthen your connection.

And it's actually really great that she thinks that you are more social. This will make her talk to you since she knows that you like to speak about things and that's a great step forward.
You can be the shadow king when you're not around her.

And as I said earlier, don't try to hard. It's a 50/50 that you screw up if you've planned everything you'll say. Just laugh with her(or at least smile if that's not your thing), and try to speak with her normally.
Try to get the two of you on the same level of understanding before moving on to actually making you a couple. It helps; believe me.

[HackersTotalMassLaser]

Pretty girl who likes anime, humor , and music you like = wth are you waiting 4 to make a move

Here's a tip: Buy her anime, problem solve.



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<.<

[Phayre]

Advice from a female (gasp): If you're nervous about just asking her to hang alone, first ask her over for something with your friends and some of hers, like an SSB party or something totally feckless like that. Then maybe see if she wants to do something casual sometime with just you, like coffee or a movie (but only if the movie is something you'd both really enjoy, not something stupid and random). Then it's not out of the blue or anything.

[Ben]

pretty much...If you have similar intrests with this broad, just ask her out, like you would say, a friend. Like so

BEGIN SCENARIO

"Hey, uh... are you busy on saturday?"
"Saturday? Ive got some stuff to do in the morning, but i dont really have anything planned for the evening"
"Because i have tickets to the monster truck rally and cowpie tossing expo"
"I love monstertrucks and cowpies. Sure Im down. Will it just be us, or will others be coming too?"

(If she says this its because she is also prolly nervous)

"Yeah, I was gonna ask some friends to come too...I just still have to arrange it with them..I think Crazy Larry is coming for sure....And perhaps Mike the molester"

"Sweet lets buy porno and cigars"

END SCENARIO





Substitute the monstertruck/cowpie with something more enticing
Also, Find better friends. Crazy larry and Mike the Molester are jerks.
Also, If she really does want porno and cigars....Shes a keeper