Love and Relationships

[Phayre]

Uh....
Er.....
So not touching that whole debate. Every time I try, I get attacked by the school's GSA. And that's not fun. They know where I live, I think. o.o
But... I do have kind of a problem.
I've had a crush on a guy all year, which is you know, normal. So I finally asked him out. He got all happy and said yes, and so we started e-mailing back and forth. The one time we actually had a chance to do something (since I live an hour away from my school and thus him), we were going to, but then I couldn't do it and we had to cancel.
I've been trying to get in touch and set something else up for two weeks now. Sometimes we talked at first, but every time I tried to set something up (with me driving, mind you, not him), he's just go silent for an hour or two until I gave up. Now he just ignores me. My friend says I should ask his friends for his phone number and assault him or something. That sounds more than vaguely stalkerish.
So.... I dunno.

[Dragonium]

You could get his phone number, or just do your best to get his friends to put in a good word for you and say "hey, you should talk to her". It'd maybe be better for you to find out why he hasn't been talking first though; if you just launch in without knowing the reasons and allowing for them, it might put him off.

Overall you should be persistent. If you really like him then it'd be silly to let him go just like that.

[Shady Ultima]

Agreed. While patience is key in some situations, in your particular spot, I would say, don't give up. If he's messing with you, that's not right, but at least he should give you a chance, since he did say yes when you asked him out. Talk to his friends, see what they have to say, maybe get his number from them too, it does sound kinda stalkerish, but it really isn't. If you hadn't asked him out, then it would be stalkerish lol.

[Revolution911]

Did you meet him yet?  I mean like, not online?  I'm just asking cause it sounds like you 2 met online.

If it's online, it might be because he's embarrassed or something ya know.  Even if he's shown you pictures, he might be shy.  People generally look better in pictures, and they aren't exactly going to send the ones they look normal in if theres a better one. If thats the case, just ask him about it and let him now it's really not an issue.

If thats not the case, then just ask him straight forward.  "How come you seem against the idea of meeting up together?"  (Over the phone of course so thats a yes on getting his phone number).  

Either way I think it boils down to him being shy.  A lot of people, as weird as it is, are A LOT better talking on the internet or on the phone and are scared of talking face to face because they know they aren't the smoothest talkers or anything, ya know?

Long distance is NEVER easy.  I personally don't believe you can REALLY know someone unless you've talked to them face to face.  

[HackersTotalMassLaser]

Originally posted by Revolution911
My assumptions had nothing to do with it.  You made the first gay comment and I just ignored it with a light hearted "I WAS BORN GAY."  Then out of nowhere another one.  The second didn't even help the depression debate AT ALL.  It was just random.  I mean, I KIND OF see an attempt at making a connection between being born gay and depressed, but its very loose and 2 very different attributes to be born with.  

Not to mention, I said you cant be born gay?  What in the hell?  Seriously thats just flat out bull.  

Well a gay baby isnt exactly going to have homosexually feelings when it's born you know.

OH SCIENCE TELLS US THIS AND MUST BE TRUE


Hmm...

Now if you look at that, I think its pretty obvious that you really don't think you can be born gay.  With the sarcastic OH SCIENCE remark.  OH PLEASE TELL ME NOW HOW IT WASN'T INTENDED TO BE SARCASTIC AT ALL AND YOU JUST FORGOT TO LET GO OF SHIFT.


WE'VE BEEN DOWN THIS ROAD BEFORE, KIJUKI.
DEJA VU ANYONE?

i luv u kijuki    
[/B]

lmao!

lol ok, yes it's all obvious and right down true cause your assumtions are all true and fact, K? love you too. *kiss kiss*

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I have to agree with Rev. I think he might be shy. If this whole fiasco, is mainly being handled online (even though you live closer than most people), then most likely, he isn't sure of what to do. In a way, he might be even afraid as to what might happen.

You also have to note other possibilities, like parents. "What will my parents think of this?" "WIll they approve?" "What if they found out"
even if he might be older already, parents can still be a concern.

Of course other things can come down from his own skepticism. "What if I get to know her and she isnt what I hoped for?" "What if
 she rejects me because of how I really am?" "What if it all turns out bad?"

Calling on surprise can be troublesome if his parent/s dont expect it (if parents are in play). But maybe you're past that point.

As to how approach the problem, I guess you could ask his friends to let him know that you're interested in him, and you would really like to talk. Believe it or not, friends like to inform this kind of things, just carefully how you say it; they can also transform your words into things you didn't say.

But yeah, seem like a bloom; keep trying and see what you get. If you know where he lives and adress and all, send a letter. This, by experience, does a lot for you and gets attention. Email have nothing on regular mail when it comes to get attention. again however parents might be a concern, os if you would send a letter, just dont put anything too giving. Break the shyness one way or another though.

[Phayre]

No, I've know him in real life. Asked him out in real life, et cetera. Except he's all spazzy when it comes to the phone. I call him, give him my number, et cetera, and he's all like, beh, let's talk on the INTERNETS. Grrr.
If he's just shy, then why was he okay the first couple times we tried setting stuff up?

[Revolution911]

I still say he's shy.  Maybe something happened he doesent wanna tell you about.  Ask him straight, seems like the only way.

[Red Giant]

To Phayre:

Yeah some people are just more at home talking on the internet and junk. My girlfriend prefers it sometimes. I mean, you can't do smilies over the phone! It's just so limiting! Or look at porn while you talk. Not that he is. it's not impossible though.


i haf problems too

Okay so like the other week I bought a Wii and Twilight Princess and I started playing it and it was all cool and everything, but then my girl comes over and she's all like "Ugh leave that wii alone and play with me" and I'm like "C'mon baby just give videgames a try, I'm sure you'll like them."

BAD IDEA.

Basically, she played it non-stop for like the next week. I've racked up about 5 hours gameplay whereas her save file is at 24 hours. She also borrowed my wind waker to play at home (Her brother has a gamecube). Now whenever I talk to her it's like

"ARE YOU PLAYING ZELDA?!"
"No honey, that's just the wind-"
"YOU'RE NOT FURTHER THAN ME ARE YOU?!"
"I swear I'm not!"
"IF YOU'RE FURTHER THAN ME OUR RELATIONSHIP IS OVER."

and the thing is I kinda am further than her because like I haven't done as many dungeons but I've totally got like a zillion more heart pieces and bugs and stuff. How do I break it to her that I want to play my own games sometimes?


Also while I'm not so sure that it's possible to be "born depressed" I believe it's probably possible to be born with a higher tendency to become depressed.


EDITZ: Also for dragoniumblaze, my girl gets depressed sometimes and (it's like the other guy sayz) the best cure is to, you know, do stuff to get her mind off of it. LIKE FREAKING ZELDA. Or camping w/e

[Dragonium]

dragoniumblaze

Rofl.

[Revolution911]

Well...my girlfriend gets pissed when I beat her in Street Fighter.  But hey, its not my fault I'm a total badass.

[Red Giant]

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[Desimodontidae]

You people...

I love love. But I hate the fact that most chicks who like me only want one thing. I don't know what it is with girls saying guys are like that... cause they're just as bad. No one wants to be in love. No one wants to be their partner's best friend. Sure, they say they do, but that's usually a feint. Which kind of sucks when you're looking for someone who's not like that, but can't find them...

[Dragonium]

Solution: don't be at all sexy.

Once you master this art, you will know the true Way of the Dragonium™.

[Dragoon de Sol]

Originally posted by Dragonium
Solution: don't be at all sexy.

Once you master this art, you will know the true Way of the Dragonium™.

I've been a master of that for ages, it seems >.>

[Moosetroop11]

Me too. We could start a club