Help Charas :(

[SaiKar]

My guess is that she's attention seeking. Even if she doesn't realize that's what she's doing, she is. Which is understandable in a way. Cold cruel world out there and lots of people feel like their lives are completely meaningless. But that doesn't mean you should put up with it.

My advise is to threaten her with going for professional help if she keeps this up. Don't make it sound like a threat of course, but that's basically what it would be. Either she's mostly being dramatic and she realizes that professional therapy would be a hassle and she quits doing what she's doing... or she's being serious and professional help would really be what she needs. It's win-win.

I'm not so sure you can save the relationship if she keeps up what she's doing. Support in times of weakness is one thing but if she's going to push you away for day after day for weeks then its pretty hopeless.

[Grandy]

 Funny, up until few back, everyone was like "Show her respect and say you love her" now everyone is like "Slap her face and tell her to stop acting like a b*tch."

 Both things might work, really.

 But, as I said, first signal things might get out control, call for professional help. If I were you, I'd have called them already, at the first attempt.

[Revolution911]

Thats how charas works. It all depends on who sounds the coolest.

I dont REALLY read any posts besides the first one, and my own.

[Emerates]

As my therapist used to say, 'You're wearing your thermostat on the outside.'

If the problem is her father, she needs tougher skin.  I don't know the details or anything, but that sounds like a big part of it.  ALTHOUGH I must add one thing to this:  There is more than one type of abuse.  Most people hear about physical abuse, but there are a lot more ways to hurt people.  Her father constantly putting her down would probably be considered verbal/emotional abuse.  Again, if that's the main reason for her being in this rut, then she needs to learn how to be less permeable to it.

If the problem can be identified as something chemically imbalanced, she needs meds.  Like, NOW.  This sounds like some pretty serious ****.

As her boyfriend, you still need to support her and everything.  However, you have to be firm as well as friendly.  Don't abandon her, but if she doesn't want you touching her, just sit by her, walk with her, stay close to her.  Show her you still care, some way or another.  And that's all the advice I have without repeating everyone else's ideas for the umpteenth time.  Hopefully, she'll come out of it without doing anything too harmful to herself.

[Noobpwner]

dragon did u getmy pm if so tell her to get a hobby.. Something she can go do alone to relax her and stuff if anyone heres emo its me XD...

          I know guitar and music works for me... Find something she loves/loves to do then help her do it more often.  It eases your mind when your enjoying yourself no just being absorbed in self pity...
        Thats what everyone said to me that i was always putting myself down and purposely making it hard for myself... Now im much better although i still blame everything on myself for others attention...
       


                I can relate to your gf in allot of ways dragon do u have msn?

[charaman]

Originally posted by MrMister
If she's telling you before hand, she's just selfish/looking for attention.

exactly. I have a friend like that... honestly? I tell him to shut the **** up he doesn't know what hes talking about.

I was suicidal for a long time, never told anyone til i got out of it. if you tell someone, you're not really suicidal.

[Razor]

And now for some terrible advice:

Don't bake her into a cake.

[Cosmos]

It's harder to deal with verbal insults when they come from the parents. They're the ones who are suppose to love you and never hurt ya. Some ppl might not really care, but others are sensitive to that. <<

[Djanki]

Have you tried telling YOUR parents? Maybe they can help somehow.

My older brother, Jason, used to be like that--he'd go around telling people he was gonna kill himself, until my dad took him to a psycologist. He told the psycologist he was gonna kill himself, so the psyc. gave him a loaded gun and told him to go ahead and shoot.

Nothing. Jason got out of it. He just wanted attention, I guess.

So, half of my advice is to be firm, and let it be known that her suicidal plans are dumb.

Now, I have a friend on Gaia like that. She's not suicidal, but she's pretty low-esteemed. But, hey, she's got a friend in me, so she's been doing better. So, the rest of the advice is to be nice to her, without touching her.

In conclusion, comfort her, but let it be known that her suicidal plans won't be accepted. And try asking your parents for help. That should be first on one's list.

[Grandy]

It would have been SO FUNNY if Jason shot himself.

...

Sorry, but it would.

[Shady Ultima]

I have to agree with Grandy.

Psyche - Here, shoot

Jay - *BANG*

Psyche - OH ****! THAT WASN'T SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN!

[Cosmos]

You guys are cruel....




and yet it honestly would be funny.. <<

[SaiKar]

There's no way in hell it was loaded. Convincing treatment or not, if the guy actually shot himself it would be disasterous for the pychologist, his office, and the field in general.

... but it would still be pretty funny >_>

[Ben]

agrees.





Oh, and uh.... >>
Just cause it seems to be the thing to do.

[Razor]

It was probably loaded with blanks.


But I agree,
"Here you go, then."
*BANG*
"OH **** OH **** OH **** OH ****"

lol